Question about parents on myspace and facebook?

[Dani]

This is a complete serious question, and when you answer, please say if you are a parent or a teen.

I am a teen, and like most teens I have a myspace that I made years ago. After about a year of having it, my mother made one so she could check up on me. I am now almost 17 years old, and she quotes things I have on my myspace or asks about the people that comment me. I can't say what I want on there because she'll read it, and question me about it. I decided to make a facebook a few months ago. She made one, and friend requested me. I ignored her, and she just told me that if I don't accept her, she'll block facebook. I have exactly 34 friends on facebook. I don't see why she needs to check up on every webpage I'm on. I am a very good kid, I hang around a good crowd, get good grades, i'm not rebellious, etc.

Do you think it's okay that she's checking my myspace and facebook all the time or do you think I need my privacy? Oh, and how can I convince her to lay off my myspace and that I don't need to accept her on facebook?

**Bonus that you don't have to read:
Because I never have privacy on the internet, I have made a youtube, twitter, blog, tumblr and deviantart all that she doesn't know about because I desperately want my privacy with something.

[calmzebra313]

wow, your 17 years old. of course you deserve your privacy because your gonna be a legal adult in a year! and your gonna be independent with everything, she should get used to the fact that you're not a little girl anymore and stop stalking your personal stuff. just tell her that you understand she cares for you and doesn't want you getting into trouble, etc. but you're almost an adult and you want your privacy

ugh, if i had a mom like that i would wanna bang my head against the wall. lmao, good thing my mom doesn't know how to work a computer like at all ;}


oh and i'm a teen

[Jane]

Hello :]
well, so i think its okay that she wants to check it, but not THAT much. She should not have made one (myspace and facebook) JUST to check-up on you. Maybe just every once and a while ask you to see it but rarely. Your 17 and as far as I know a good kid, you should talk to her and tell her that you're almost an adult and she has to let you have your privacy, and that if she doesnt lay off you'll never learn how to handle people on myspace, facebook ect. on your own. She should trust you, since you've given her no reason not to You need your Privacy!!!!!!! ..... btw I'm a teen....

[Toughwealth576]

I am a teen.

I don't have a myspace, but I am in the exact same situation otherwise. I'm a god kid, but my mom still wanted to check up on me.

I found it a little annoying, but mostly I think it's ok. It reminds me not to write things on my wall, make comments, etc. that I wouldn't want my mom to see. It's a good way to make sure I'm being nice

And, let's face it. We're kids. We can be naieve (sp?). My mom points it out to me when she thinks I'm giving out too much info. And the chances of that are even greater on MySpace, where the profiles are public.

Although now that I think about it, you ARE 17... maybe you could negotiate with your mom that she can "check up" on you randomly, but she doesn't need an account just to check on you.

[kariweber_17]

OK I'M GOING TO BE 21 SOON, AND I HAVE TWO LIL GIRLS HAILIY WHO IS 4 AND MADISON WHO IS ALMOST A YEAR OLD. I HAVE A MYSPACE AND HAVE IT HAD SINCE I WAS 16 LOL. I'M GOING TO LET MY GIRLS HAVE ONE WHEN THEY PROVE TO ME THAT THEY ARE OLD ENOUGH TO RESPECT IT FOR WHAT IT IS. WHAT IS IT YOUR MOM IS ASKING YOU ABOUT IF THER IS SOMETHING YOU DONT WANT HER TO READ THE JUST EMAIL EACH OTHER. FROM WAHT YOU WROTE YOU SEEM LIKE A GOOD YOUNG LADY ...I WONT CALL YOU A GIRL CAUSE I HATE WHEN PEOPLE DO THAT TO ME ...HELLO 20 HAVE 2 KIDS AND MARRIED TO A SOLDIER WHOM IS IN IRAQ LOL I'M SURE YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN. YOU ARENT A LIL GIRL SO MAYBE YOUR MOM BACK OFF A LIL BUT REMEMBER SHE IS YOUR MOTHER IS SHE IS JUST MAKING SURE YOU ARWENT GETTIN IN TO BAD STUFF. THATS JUST WHAT MOTHERS DO ....WE PROTECT OUR CHILDREN ONE DAY YOU'LL LOOK BACK AND THANK HER LOL.

[noisythread373]

I don't know about MySpace, really, but for Facebook, you can block her from seeing your status, link, what you and others have written on your wall, pictures, videos, friends and from messaging you. Go to settings, privacy settings and then profile. Click on the drop down list of whatever you want to block her on and click customize. A box should pop up and at the bottom it should say 'except these people' and you type it in there.

I hope that helped, my uncle added me on facebook and then kept commenting on all of my stuff so I blocked him on like everything. I eventually deleted him though, lol.

*but if you block her she can still see like your quiz results and can post on them*

[◦ƒεṃαlε◦]

I can understand how she'd want to check up on you, but she does need to let go now that you're 17 and trust you.

If I were you, I'd add her, but put her on every privacy thing there is. If she asks, tell her you removed your 'wall' because people kept posting spam and silly 'send to 10 people or else' and you got annoyed.

Good luck. I have my mom on my facebook and on every privacy thing there is.

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[ilybaby09]

my mom has a myspace, i told her that i wanted privacy and she completely understands. But there has been cases where people meet other people on a website and it turns into a real serious case and I'm sure thats what your mother is worried about.