Should I ask my friend to catch up?

[anon]

We used to be BEST friends. From when we were seven until about 14 we would see each other seven days a week. When we started high school (Seventh grade here) we began to drift apart because we had no classes together. She became friends with a group of girls who really dislike me and the group that I grew to become friends with. We still spoke when we saw each other and hung out on weekends and school holidays, but as the years went we saw each other less and less.

It got to the point where we would catch up once every school holidays and that was it. Every time we would hang out she would say, "Oh my gosh how crazy is it that we've been best friends for (however many years) now!" Which lead me to believe she wanted to stay friends. But then I started to feel like I was the only one putting in any effort. I was always the one to say, "Hey want to catch up on (whatever day)?" She would say yes and then cancel on me and give me a reason, but then later I would see on facebook that she was with her other friends. It wouldn't hurt so much if she just told me the truth. When we did catch up, we would have so much fun. We can make conversation out of anything and talk for hours and hours and then be like, "Wait what were we even talking about?" and I've never had that with anyone else.

So three school holidays ago, I wanted to see if she would ask to hang out if I didn't. I didn't say anything, and she didn't. I was angry and for the next two school holidays I didn't talk to her either and avoided her at school. Even though we don't really talk at school anyway. I feel like she's embarrassed to because I'm not exactly popular and she is.

Now I just miss her. I miss having such a good friend. We're almost 18 now and going into our last year of school at the beginning of February. Should I ask her to hang out?

[Yvonne]

Well if you are the only one putting effort into this friendship then it isn't worth it. She canceled to hang out with her other friends over you aka the best friend she had for like so many years. Some people just drift apart and there is just nothing you can do about it. But you can try to talk to her about it tell her how you feel and you can decide whether to move on or keep her as a friend. Don't worry, you will meet other people in your life soon. (: