How do you maintain dignity after a hurtful unfair breakup? Depressed and desperate...?

[Paris]

he broke up with me with a text..not giving a reason,, i was devestated and tried to reach him sevral times to find out what happened and why he did this to me.. he simply ignored all my messages, calls, emails,, texts..etc...Now i am hearing that he has started talking behind my back to those who I never approved as a friend. I'm so angry and hurt for what he's been doing to me..I loved this man so much and i always had respect for him that's why it hurts me so much...im very depressed...he is on facebook pretty active like nothing has happened.. i dont know why he would do this to me,

I feel horrible for begging him to give me n answer and he ignored me..i made myself look desperate..now i want to know how i can maintain my dignity and respect after him treating me like garbage..., i am trying to move on because i dont think that i would ever want to go back to him again even though i still have strong feelings for him.. im hurt so much ... what should i do/....need your help

[elizabeth]

The best thing you can do is pretend he means nothing to you anymore and treat him just like a stranger. That will help heal your heart and perhaps even show to him a side of you that he doesn't know. Pleading for answers never works, because most people are too cowardly to say, or even just unaware of why they've rejected you. It's hard, but you can present an outwardly confident self - something that he may even come to admire.

[Vashti]

A person who you were in love with sucker punched you. You were in shock and begged and made yourself look desperate. You're not the first person who has ever done it. It happens - quit beating yourself up over it and move on.

So what if he's trash talking you to people you don't know or like? It doesn't matter. It sounds like you have people reporting to you about what he's saying. Tell them you don't want to hear it.

Why would he do this to you and in the manner he did? He's a coward.

Delete him from Facebook. You don't need to be seeing anything about what he's up to or saying. I know a part of you wants to, but you'll be better off if you just quit looking at it.

Take care of yourself and stay busy. The hurt will eventually lessen. There are plenty of articles online about how to survive a breakup. Look for them, read them & use what helps YOU during this difficult time.

((hugs))

[G]

You maintain your dignity by shaking it off and moving on with your life. He's not on your radar and you don't care to talk to or about him. Time will be your friend, and you will get through this.