Etiquette for dealing with a friend who is rude on facebook?

[spectaculore]

I have a close friend who constantly makes rude comments on facebook (on my wall, on pictures, on status updates, on other friends' wall posts, etc). I'm not sure whether they're intended to be rude, but regardless, they often seem condescending or mean.

Considering that I have family members, classmates, teachers, and co-workers as friends on facebook, I think of my profile as an extension of how people see me, and I don't want them to see me being treated badly, nor do I want people to associate me with someone rude. I delete her comments whenever they rub me the wrong way, and she always gets upset about it.

How do you recommend dealing with this situation? I've considered removing her as a facebook friend, but since we are close friends off of facebook, I think that would only harm our friendship.

[mcq316]

Warn her once. Be polite but firm. If she is a real friend, that will be enough. If that doesn't work, remove her on facebook and re-evaluate your friendship.

[Mark W]

i would de-friend her and then re friend request her with a note next to it warning her that everyone can see what she says. just be like one of my family members said something about it and i dont really want to get them angry.

[bigmagic251]

I would just talk to them and until it stops just delete all offensive things they post.

[biotech_armaments]

Ask why the comment is worded like it is. Sometimes, and I can't stress this enough, people can't find the right words to convey the proper tone or inflection they want to get across. So they just use the words they know and can come off as crass or rude. I obviously don't know if this is the case with you but the only way to straighten it out is to ask for her intention. try this: "Hey what did you mean by that? LOL" I have found that the abbreviation LOL (Laughing out Loud) saves allot of misunderstanding so does JK (Just kidding). Your friend may not be up to speed or may just be a jerk, but the only way to find out is to ask. Beware you may not like the answer and you could lose a friend, but remember if she was saying harsh, mean, callous, rude things about you, and to you, you probably didn't want her for a friend anyway. Good Luck & Hope this helps

[Aamina]

two things to do:
1. delete user
2. block user

[Bob B]

delete all those rude comments and tell your friend to knock it off or you would lose her as a friend!!!!!!

[jml210]

You could talk to her about it. They might think it is you with a problem. You can delete them. You can use theexcusese that someone hacked your facebook account. You could create a new facebook account for your other people.

[JustWondering]

I would just explain to her that since you have so many contacts on facebook, when she posts on your wall and such, she is in mixed company and should act as she would had she been in the room with all of those people.

[Sepideh]

I'm a Facebook user but I hardly have any problems with it since any wacky friends or former friends who like to cause trouble are not on my friend-list or are permanently blocked. For some people with rude friends or persistent ex-friend stalkers, Facebook may not be worth the trouble.

Anyhow, if you want to continue using FB, reason with your friend in real time, tell her that her remarks are rude and embarrassing. How would she like it if you posted rude statements on her wall? Try to distract her, there are so many things you can do on FB. There are so many different things you can do in privacy settings as well, like restricting who can see what or who can post on your wall, etc.

If you have to, remove her from your friend-list. Or deactivate your account temporarily to give it a rest. When you reactivate it, set some new ground rules for your friend or anyone else who is rude. You have the right to delete any rude comments from your wall, and you don't have to apologize for it. Be firm, but try to achieve an understanding with your friend.

I hope you're able do resolve this problem. Remember, to solve problems like this, it helps to be more proactive than reactive.