My best friend became popular and left me?

[Raquel]

I used to best friends with this girl for about 9 years. We were BEST friends all through elementary school and even through middle school. We would hang out EVERY SINGLE weekend and constantly talk to eachother. She finally moved closer to me and we were going to go to the same highschool together, we were super excited. The first 2 months went well and we have a class together too, but you see the thing is my friend has ALWAYS been one of the most popular girls at school and I however have absolutely no friends and I'm very lonely. When my friend began going to my school she had already "sort of" knew most of the popular people that go to my school through her friends and parties. 2 months after she began to attend my school she noticed how lame and how much of a nobody I truly am and left me for the most popular elite girls of the school. During the first two months she would somewhat acknowledge me, when I would say hi to her and she was around her popular friends she would raise her highbrows to acknowledge my presence but she would never say hi back. Now she doesn't acknowledge me at all we walk past eachother in the halls like strangers and now I'm to afraid to say "hi" to her because I know her friends might criticize me since I'm such a loner. She sits in front of me in Biology and doesn't say word to me and if we are asked to get in pairs she immediately rushes to her popular "best friend" and I'm left alone. She doesn't say hi to me anymore at all. She sits behind me in the bus with all of her super popular friends and I hear all of them laughing and talking about boys and parties and fun things, while I'm in the seat in front of them and I get so mad just so mad because how?
H O W could she leave me like that?! All by myself and sometimes I just sit there in the bus tearing up whilst hearing them talk and joke around. Why? Why did she have to leave me all alone when I had nobody else but her? It makes me so sad and furious. It sucks because she's always been better at me at everything! At boys, at friends, at being popular! Now she just down at me.
She just looks down at me*

[Lilsykes]

Hello! =)

do you have twitter? haha it would be so much easier if we could talk. Can you please tweet me or email me right now?? If you have a hotmail, can you please email me? my email is franfranfranfranfran@hotmail.ca my twitter is @ korinalonga .

If not:


Firstly, i want you to know that you're not alone with this. Lots of girls are going through the same thing, you're not alone What she did to you certainly isn't right. And it's not fair. I wish you could text me or something so i can help you through this, so please if you can email me!

The first thing you need to realize, is that everything happens for a reason. Maybe you and her just weren't meant to be friends, and if you look at it this way, maybe now this can give you an opportunity to focus on your education and school. Maybe now you focus and stay motivated to work hard on assignments and study to get good grades. Maybe now you can focus on what you want to do after you graduate, The best advice i can give you is in ANY situation, try to find the positives in it. And tell yourself that no matter WHAT you are going to be positive and try to be content.

Secondly, you need to feel what you need to feel. Just for a couple mins in your day, take a timein your day to just let it all out , If you feel like crying sometimes, cry. Just let it all out. get those emotions up, don't bottle them up or try to push them away. It will help you with the healing process.

You need to see that she has her life, and you have yours. She made her decision, the best thing you can do is to respect it, and realize that maybe she never truly deserved you. You're a nice girl, and you seem like a good friend. Maybe the truth is, she never deserved you. And thats alright because it gives you the opportunity to wait to be a good friend to someone else. Don't call yourself a loner, because you're not. Maybe one day you will have soo many friends that you can't even count, but right now, you don't have to worry about it. Right now you can focus on you, and school.

The thing that you need to do, is to forgive her. Forgive her for what she did to you, Because if you hold that anger and resentment towards her, you will never truly heal. And you will carry that hurt with you. You need to forgive her, forgiveness is the best thing. If you don't know where to start, this might help:

http://www.wikihow.com/Forgive-Someone

Read it and study it.

And this youtube video is very helpful! She's an expert, and can help.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l0jXYQxJMVY

And always remember that forgiveness doesn't just happen, sometimes it takes time. and alot of patience. When you see her in school, know that once you start to forgive, and heal, it will eventually hurt less to see her. But when you do see her or walk by her, just try to tell yourself that you can do better, and you don't need her or anyone else to be happy. Remind yourself whats important, SCHOOL. GRADUATING. And on the bus, don't even pay attention to what the girls are saying. Put headphones in and listen to some music, or take out a book and read. Or maybe do some homework. Just don't let them get to you. Stay positive and know that you can do this. And you can talk to me (email,twitter, anything) if you ever need to talk.



Good luck<3333