should i go to a guy's house if he invites me to play board games with him at his place?

[Sarah]

I met a guy at a friend's engagement party 2 weeks ago. He is my friend's fiance's older brother. We talked for a bit and I enjoyed talking to him. He seems friendly and works as a medical doctor at a hospital. I added him on Facebook after the party. Two days ago he messaged me on Facebook, wished me merry Xmas and invited me to play board games with him (he said his male friend went overseas so he has no one to play with). Should I go to his house, and does he just want to play board games? I've only met him once and don't know him very well. I don't normally go to guys' houses unless I've known them for years.

I told him I'd love to play board games with him but I have never been to a guy's house on my own before,unless it's a group thing. I suggested we go to a local library or coffee shop to play. He replied that I can bring my brother along if I want and that it is a group thing. I still don't trust him for some reason. What do you think?

[Susie]

Girl, this dude is trying to get in your knickers! Yeah I said it straight up. He isn't going to invite his brother because you'll go and he'll say 'Oh snap my brother can't make it but it's still cool we can still play together'
Or he really likes you but is taking a step way further...actually hell no he is trying to sleep with you. I don't trust him. Come on after one day of meeting and already invites u over to his house?! Get to know him more on facebook etc exchange numbers BUT DON'T GO TO HIS HOUSE ALONE! Unless you take a friend who will not bunk on you then its all good.

[Jane]

Of course you should go! If you're a bit unsure about going alone bring a couple of your friends along too. He sounds like he's a really nice person but if you're really uncomfortable with going, just don't go or try to get to know him better before you go to his house.

[UnlawfulExile]

I would bring your brother along with you, just to be safe. While your there, stay close to your brother, but try and get to know the guy.

Best of luck!

[Next time]

If you have trust issues on your mind it will ruin any date even if it is to play a game. Look you cannot blame a guy for wanting to get into your pants. Here is the deal no one gets there until you agree and make yourself vailable assuming you are not being coerced . Having said that God gave you instinct and intuition Those are the feeling you get when you see some one and off the cuff know he has the potential to go all the way if he plays his cards right. Then the game is on. If he plays the cards wrong your gut feelings kick in. If he plays the cards wrong you know sometimes you have no secondary position to avoid disaster. The quesrion then becomes how do i deal with this with the least possible negative affects. Some times you are going to make a snap judgment and it turns out right. Other times a snap judgment cannot be recovered from . So weigh the pros and cons make your decision and give it time.

If I seem wavering it is because I am buying time. That this guy has a room mate who is his only playing partner. Does that strike you as odd? Then what happens when his partner returns? Get the drift? He is an Emergency Room Doctor What happened to the hospital staff and Med School students?

Take a chance tell him you find him interesting but joining him at his house seems lide date 8 as to bringing your brother that is not for your protection it is for his convenience so he cannot make a move on you. He wants it both ways. Having protection so you won't be too aggressive and he gets you to come to his place which means he is grooming you>. Come and find him harmless next time you come alone then wham-bam-thank-you-mam. See yourself out, he would have called you a cab and then he would announce sorry I got an emergancy call : I have leave shortly so I need to rest for work later in the evening. Mystery lies behind every door> Do you feel lucky?

Good luck.

look you know a whole lot more than you think you know trust your self.

next time