Shouldn't he be the one to come to me?? Please help!?

[Roses3434]

When I first met him he was nice but then the next day as I greeted him he was all about touching me. I felt strange and uncomfortable because it seemed too soon all at once because we had just met. He took great offense to the way I felt. I just wanted to know more about him before I just jumped into a romantic relationship. I mean we hardly knew each other. Then he wouldn’t talk to me for a whole year and gave me a cold shoulder. I heard that he talked about me behind my back to popular kids at our school. Those kids weren’t very nice anyway.

In highschool we bumped into each other by accident and he started talking to me out of no where. He wanted to know what was going on in my life and how I was. Then when our sophomore year came, during 2nd semester we ended up having a class together, but I also had other friends in that class too. He would always stare at me and make a bunch of noise with his feet or hands, when he saw me laughing or talking with my friends. He also started flirting with girls purposefully before and after class right infront of me and he look at me afterwards to see if I noticed and if not would make sure I did by reaching his hand across my desk just to rub this other girls arm… :/ He ended up taking lots of pictures together with her. People on facebook would say they look so cute together. They also went to prom together as well but they never kissed there or at all at school. Also popular girls awe over him all the time and he loves that attention. He’s all about being complimented, and worshipped. Im not going to lose respect for myself by praising him all the time. :| Seems to me he is a jerk or too much of a butthurt coward. Idk. He never tells me how he feels so how am I suppose to know if he is just playing games or if he actually likes me?

Ive tried to explain my feelings to him but it hasn’t helped very much. He does have a big ego and it seems as though he is insecure with himself. I don’t really see why he needs to feel that way because he is popular and has a ton of friends. So this year I decided to ignore him because I thought I wouldn’t have a chance with him since he always hanged out with other girls. But ever since Ive been ignoring him he has been following me. He always stares at me in the hallways. I haven’t even talked to him or anything to make him do so. He alsp passes by my class a few times and stare at me as he walked by. Then about a month later he started walking into the class and “pretending” to talk to the teacher but also kept looking at me while he was talking. The creepiest thing he did was follow me to my PE class and he “pretended” again that he was working out in the weight room but then he came over to the gym and wouldn’t stop staring at me when I was running laps for my warm up. He hangs out in the library where I work and just watches me again when I laugh with my friends or when Im helping somebody out. I just feel confused.

Shouldn’t he man up if he has something to say? I can’t understand where he is coming from when he stares at me all the time. I would like to know what’s on his mind but I can’t if he doesn’t come to me. Right? I mean if a guy really loves and wants you he will find a way to keep you in his life? Im just afraid since he has already talked about me behind my back and I don’t want to go up to him and ask then he does it again. The other thing is if he is just playing with my heart then Im not interested. Advice?

[Aisha]

He likes your attention and having you around as his second choice and you like/want his attention, it seems to me. Just drop it, especially when he talks behind your back and doesn't appreciates you. You seem like a nice person so I'm sure you'll find a great guy soon

[Stellar]

For starters, this is far from love. You basically bruised his big ego when you rejected him and he reacted the best way he could think to. He did those things to hurt you because you hurt him. People always want what they can't have and since he is popular and lots of girls like him, he can't comprehend you turning him down. Although you didn't exactly turn him down, it probably felt that way to him because he probably usually gets his way with girls. I get that you like him, but you should forget about him. I'm guessing you're pretty young. You have time and something tells me you have options. Don't do what he wants just to get some guy who you probably won't see again after you graduate to like you. If he is really interested in you, he'd not only respect how you felt and want you to be comfortable, but he would want to take the time to really get to know you before wanting to feel you up.