My boyfriend is mad at me that I won't let him look through my phone?

[Brittany]

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year. We both come from backgrounds filled with trust issues. Last night, he wanted to look through my phone, but I refused to let him see it. I am NOT cheating on him, texting other men, or doing anything stupid. I just don't want him to look at it, because there is absolutely nothing on it. Also, I am a very private person, and I have been my whole life. He got really mad at me because I wouldn't let him check my phone. He said I had a stupid excuse, and that I'm probably cheating on him. However, I'm absolutely not, and i tried explaining it to him. My phone is filled with phone calls just from him, and my last text were from December, because I use things like Facebook to chat with people. There's nothing on my phone that would make him upset, and I haven't done anything to make him upset. I just really respect my privacy, and it's hard for me to open up to someone. Should I just show him my phone??
I don't want to look at his phone, because I trust him, and respect his privacy. He said he'd be willing to let me, but I just don't want to look because I could care less.

[Mark]

Absolutely not! You have a right to your privacy and he needs to respect that just as I'm sure you are doing the same.

[Wakikiki]

Tell him if he wants to see ur phone you should be able to see his too and exchange vmail passwords while youre at it. Let's see how he likes it.

[poopsy]

Being with someone who distrusts you that much is unfair to you. I have nothing incriminating on my phone either, but I wouldn't let my boyfriend look through it either because I'd be embarrassed. How would your boyfriend feel if you ruffled through all his personal life? You'll get to know each other in time and make good judgement, and he needs to understand that. If you just wanna make him feel like an ass, let him look through your phone. You have to set your boundaries though. He can't just invade your privacy because he's your boyfriend. If he knows you're not one to share everything all at once, he should respect you for it.
I hope this isn't happening to you, but sometimes people project their own guilt onto their partners for cheating. Or he's just really insecure. You can work together to help him become more confident in himself and just get a fucking hobby. A relationship consists of two individuals that work together to make each other and themselves happy. Whatever that means for you, good luck

[Amanda]

I would definitely stick to you're word & not give him your phone. Privacy is a big thing, he needs to understand where you are coming from. It is normal for him to question why you won't show him what is in you're phone because as you said, he has trust issues but that it's just something he has to accept.

[Ovidiu]

Look, Brittany, when I was your age, we didn't have here mobile phones and internet - long time ago and, also, the communist era.
Still, we did have postal services, so that we could write and receive letters.
I can assure you that NEVER, any of my girls, (and, for a fact, not even my parents!!!) have ever tried to read my letters to be posted, or the letters that I've received...

Now, just for your information.
In case one of my girls, or, why not, one of my friends, would have tried to do such a thing, then, in maximum ten minutes they would have been out of my home and my life!
What is private should stay private and that's it!
Now, do yourself a favour and block the keyboards of your phone with a SECRET password.
It is, I know, a little bit of inconvenience, but, in the long run, you will see that this is a wise choice.