Feel like im nothing in my husband's life?

[zzz]

I got married 7 months ago n currently staying with my mother in law. My husband is an only child and we promised to take care of my mil in law together. My fil passed away 12 yrs ago. The problem I hv is my mil interferes in ourlive too much n we had some problems recently and only yesterday she confronted me saying she is d most important person in my husband's life and whatever happens she is the only person that my husband has. She also said my husband told her he regretted marrying me and their lives together before I came into the picture was happy and carefree. I ruined everything. I later told my husband and asked if what she said was true. He told me he never said such a thing. He made it clear that his mom and I are both important in his life and as his wife I am somehow more important than her. He also said how ever well he takes care of his mom he will do the same for me and even more coz I am all that he has. I accepted all he said and am gratefull beyond believe but I am really unhappy when he said just ignore his mom coz she always want to win all argument as she she is someone with a big ego. What I really want is for him to stand up for me and let her know where I stand in his life. We are married for God's sake and I have the rights to be repected and heard as a wife. I want her to acknowledge me. In fact she was the one who introduced me to her son and now she's saying that she had better choices than me. My husband was adopted by the way and he feels like he owes her everything. He sacrificed his life for her and he told me since my fil passed away he never get what he wanted and when he married me I was what he really wanted n I am the best thing that happened to him. Tell me what can I do to protect my marriage? Please advice. I love my husband and i've tolerated my mil but she's reaching my boiling point. I don't want to ruin their mother and son relationship but I am hurt.

[Forever]

oh wow - tough one. your husband married you, not his mother. he needs to attend to you, his marriage & relationship - the mil comes second to you. he needs to put his foot down & tell her, lovingly, that you are his wife & most important to him- he loves her but needs to cut the apron strings... NOW!

i would not enter into frivolous conversation with your mil - she's being selfish & self-centered & she is NOT doing her son any favors - he needs to wise up & you should keep your distance from the mil...
lovingly.

hope it works out.

[Laura]

The 3 of you are living together? Who's house is it? How does she need to be taken care of?
The answers to these questions will determine some of my suggestions; however, I would agree to ignore her. What she said was an evil thing to say to anyone regardless if it was true or not. She sounds like a jealous and sad women. I would petty her. Be polite and limit your interaction with her. This sounds like the typical mil and daughter fighting over the son/husband. Really don't waste your time. No one wins this. Remember he married you but he grow up with her and it is NOT a Competition. Protect you marriage by being an adult and a wife, don't fight with her. If your husband will not stand up to her, by saying please respect my wife. You may be in big trouble.
This is common problem!!!

[Good Life by Love]

Stand up and break the mother son relationship ship NEVER recommended. Your just doing the same what she is doing. Mom's are like this. I know many mom's like this.

Your husband is telling the truth and trust him.

Adoption is BIG, he does owe.

Best thing to do is be meek calm and respectful. You just have to maneuver in many ways. Also try to book things so you visit there less and also talk less and make sure it is not noticeable.

I like to just add because maybe I got your attention: After 7 years of perfect marriage then a child if desired.

If things are minor I usually just wouldn't even give it a second thought. If it is major I just fix it the best way and that's it. Maybe this will be a good method for you guys. Always reinforce it with Love


. I hope you can be stay at home wife ([no school]events with guys around unless your husband is there 100%) that takes care of all the woman things and he is taking care of all the man things like lifting, fixing working outside and handling all those jerks, and if you do work outside you know what I mean. I hope you can be a home wife so the marriage can be a loving one with peace.

Always talking is good. Find a private place to talk with time to talk. Never teach, just inform if necessary and in a meek manner. Handle the kids and teach them with few words and listen well, pay attention to details. If some parts kids can't be handled then inform the husband.

Be a good wife and make sure all the cooking and cleaning is done. Stay Fit, Smell Good, Dress well. Make sure to make love when ever either of you want.

Be meek. Quick to listen, slow to speak. Only tell him things when needed. Never teach him. If you do tell him something make sure it is kindly. Handle the kids, and if you notice you can't for sure then inform him in a kindly way.

Hugs and kisses are always good any time, instead in front of the guys otherwise the guys might want some too. Make sure to let him know to keep the making love part private.



On another note: Try your best. Love like you never love before. This is the best way for love to come and start surrounding your life. May love be around you, through you and is you.

Love and the Good Life will come

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