Cheating and trust, what can we do :(?

[danie]

Im with my boyfriend over a year. We love eachother to bits and both hate cheating. Somehow things have gotten messed up. I told him I liked this guy when we were fighting way back hes a friend of friends of ours. I dont really but it caused him paranoia. Iv had paranoia over facebook as once my boyfriend poked a girl for a few days during a fight. I went out alone one night and I had a fight with him and gave a guy my number and put him on the phone to my boyfriend. He forgave me and iv been in fear since that hed get me back even though he said he wouldn't. Well I had another row I mailed the guy I told him I liked and admitted it to him. I went on my boyfriend's Facebook and discovered hed poked a load of girls during our fights. I just hate lies when I do something I come clean. I feel like shit over it. He feels like shit over the other guy. He blocked all the girls he poked and deactivated his Facebook. I deleted the guy I said I liked and deactivated my Facebook.
Another thing is a good few of his friends fancy me they have made it clear aswell as some other guys but I give them no attention but it adds to him feeling worried.
He says hes so sorry that the pokes meant nothing that he felt crap about himself and that im beautiful.
How the hell do I stop feeling ugly and not good enough because of it. We know we need to rebuild trust. Maybe poking and mailing isnt cheating to some but it is to us. I looked at one of the girls and start comparing myself but stopped. It just hurts. Im afraid but I love him and I guess he feels the same. Any advice for us?

[Sky88]

My advice is to fix your lives first.

[bill g]

sadly , once a cheat , always a cheat , until he grows up and decides he doesn't want to live alone , right now he's to inexperienced and he would like to drag you to his level , something you should be very awae of ----- good luck

[Stephanie]

I think the best thing for you two it to sit down and talk to eachother about your feelings . I can relate not feeling " good enough " for my bf because of our past together and some things hes said to me. People say and do alot of stupid things when they feel threatened angry or upset. The only way to find peace is to get to the root cause of why you feel the way you do and voice that concern to him and he needs to address it and help you get over that i.e " i feel like you dont really love me and are with me because you know im a good person and that the person who you really want doesnt want you" he should have an answer to something like that and should be willing to make effort to have you not feel that way and you should do the same for him as well. These experiences make relationships alot stronger because your learning how eachother thinks and going out of your way to make eachother comfortable . Communication courtesy and sacrifice is key . You two will be fine

[Gracie]

You are very extreme, at the end of the day it is 'poke' via the internet. However, you have given your number to someone. I think this isn't working and its not right to look on his fb. I think you are lacking confidence and causing insecurity....

[Ovidiu]

Switch off your computers, tablets, telephones, whatever, and deal with each other in person!