My ex of two years moved on really quickly?

[Morgan]

We dated for a little over two years. He was taking me to look at engagement rings and persisting that he wanted to get married soon. I told him I was open to the idea of getting married but I wanted to get my career going first. I suggested a long engagement if and when we did get engaged. He didn't take it well and got upset.

A couple months after several arguments I suggested we take a break. He cried and got really upset and I just told him I needed to get all my priorities in line before I fully committed to him.

Now, a couple weeks later...I log onto Facebook and he has posted that he is in a relationship with another woman. I went to her profile and she had just posted a new photo of herself and he is commenting "you're so beautiful-im definitely keeping you ;-)" .........im just in disbelief. Im not sure how to feel about this. Why would he do this? Should I contact him?

[Emma]

He might be insecure that you are an independent woman who priorities her career. He probably is looking to get married and start a family ASAP and doesn't want to wait around for you to build your career as there is no guarantee how long that will take. Actions always speak louder than words and although you said you were open to the idea he was probably offended you didn't jump right into the idea head over heals. Probably busted his ego up. No harm in contacting him but if I were you I'd just focus on my career and find someone new when you're ready.

[Been There]

There are two ways to deal with emotional pain:
(1) Allow yourself to grieve and mourn, to face the pain, learn from mistakes, to heal and regain our strength.
(2) Run out and find a distraction .. usually drugs/booze, or another lover. Instead of facing your pain, and working through it .. distract yourself.

Girls, upon breaking up, tend to do #1. Although there are exceptions, of course.
Guys, tend to do #2.

Another factor is that we girls get into relationships because we want connection, belonging. This is not easily or quickly filled by running out and moving on.
And guys get into relationships for the s*x. They aren't so interested in the connection ,the belonging. It's the s*x. And that is easy to replace .. all you need is a warm willing female body. As long as they like how she looks and she doesn't get upset with him, just about any female will do.

Don't take it personally. Guys don't operate like girls do.
Don't feel offended. If he wasn't hurt by the breakup, he wouldn't have run out and replaced you to distract himself from the pain.
No, don't contact him. When a couple breaks up, it means that they were not able to operate successfully AS a couple. Any attempt to get back together means only another breakup down the road.

As for yourself, there's no reason you couldn't have committed, except that of fear. If we have our head together, we can do just as much with our life in a relationship as we can not committed.
There's no reason to hurt someone by "taking a break", not if you care about their feelings and know how to love another, and not if you want to stay with them.

You have ended it and now leave him to fix his pain as best he can. Remember that guys don't have as much emotional skills (generally speaking) as girls do. Since you hurt him in the first place, don't begrudge him his attempt to patch up his life. Nothing heals a guy faster than becoming infatuated over someone else. Let him have that.
Move on.
Focus on your career for now.
You ended it when you suggested a break.

[esim345]

You don't want him to marry you, and you don't want him to be with anyone else either. You must really want this guy to be in pain. You sound like a bitch. How about you move on with your life, and let him move on with his?