I'm breaking up with this girl?

[agreeablelamp449]

It isn't very serious, we went out on one date on Valentines Day. We go to school together. She dates a lot, so I know she'll find someone else like that, but she is also my friend and I don't want to be a bitch :/

Does this sound right?


Me: I don't think we should go on anymore dates
Probably what she'll say: What, why?
Me: I don't think I should try to maintain a relationship during my freshman year. A lot of my schooling includes me picking between sleep, social, and homework. I'm not up for hanging out all the time with people, so I can't offer you the attention you deserve.

I don't know how the rest of the conversation will play out, but I'll go with the flow. Is this a good way to start the conversation?

We're both girls, and I'm also sick of people treating us like a zoo attraction (everyone keeps going on about 'how cute!!!' and 'omg ur my otp!' and it's really annoying) but I'm not going to tell her that because she'll probably try to argue that I'm full of myself. My facebook is literally crammed full of messages of people trying to talk about us, and we've only been on one date. I just can't deal with relationships, I don't feel like they are right for me. Besides, I've realized I don't feel comfortable dating people from my school.

[MM]

I don't think that's a good way to start. Because here's how she'll likely respond: "Don't I get to decide what I deserve? Because I don't mind having to come second to schoolwork. Honestly, I feel the same way myself. And we can work together on that."

If you want out of the relationship, period, then you don't go beyond "I'm sorry; it's not working out." Offering reasons sounds to the person who doesn't want to end the relationship like you're leaving the door open to negotiation, and if that's not the case, that just makes things super-awkward and raises the likelihood you're going to have to share stuff you don't want to share.

All that said, if the main stumbling block here is the Facebook messages, then just adjust your privacy settings and tell the people you actually want to talk to that you know they're trying to be supportive, but you'd rather they just treat you like any other couple instead of making a big deal out of it. And maybe go talk to your school's counseling center, because bystanders really should not be having this much of an impact on your willingness to date.