JUST FOUND OUT MY HUSBAND CHEATED ON ME!! Please help, thank you!?

[Pree_Girl]

First off let me start off by saying that this was not the first time, my husband and I met back in high school and got pregnant after high school. He cheated on me when I was 6 months pregnant. I forgave him and gave him a second chance after discussing that he admitted made a mistake and was very nervous being young and so many responsibilities.. ANYWAY... Now we are 27 yrs old and 3 daughters later he has done again, he cheated on me with a co-worker. This happened about a year ago but He just recently confessed after me attacking him with questions and left him no choice. He said he had a relationship with her and slept with her and went to vegas together.. The only reason I found out was because of instagram she blocked me on instagram and I thought that was weird because she didn't know me and why would you block a random stranger??... I had my other suspicions about it but never brought it up. He said he ended the relationship with her because he got tired of living a double life. he said she got very upset and threatened with calling me and telling me all the truth. This broke my heart and I told him I want the divorce but he cannot move because he has no where else to go also he has lost his Job so he only has me. He said he loves me and that it was a mistake and to give him another chance to prove to me that he is a changed man and that she meant nothing. I truly don't believe him and think that he will do it again if he has the chance. I don't know what to do because we have three daughters and a lot of years invested. We are happy when we are together and we get along pretty good. He is like my best friend and I love him. I know if I left him I would not have a problem finding someone better. But at the end all men are the same... She is a very gorgeous and beautiful girl and SOMETIMES I feel like sending a message to the girl letting her know he is available and she can keep him and take him back because I don't want him ANYMORE!!, Pelase Help I don't know what to do and I am scared of going out into the real world since I have never been with anyone else but him.

[P]

He is not your best friend. A good friend would never treat someone that they care about in such a way. He is selfish. Affairs are selfish. You and your daughters can do better and deserve better.

[john]

Fuck him! Divorce and you will most likely get the house and kids, because he has no income. He committed to you, and he broke that twice! He is a worthless man and a piece of shit. Divorce him.

[shaboog]

I am sorry to hear that you are going through this again. I too have been in that situation and all you can do is let go. He has done it multiple times and u keep forgiving him. How many times will you continue to let him break your heart? I know its hard and he has no where else to go but he made the choice to step out on your relationship so let him go step out with the woman that he cheated on you with. You obviously deserve better and even u said it that u can forgive him but you are pretty sure he will do it again. There is someone out that there that can and will appreciate you better than he has. I hope things work out for the best with you and your girls. Good Luck!

[Evil]

What you need to ask you're self is...Do you think he deserves another chance? and do you still love him?
If that's the case... U need to ask yourself that.. . If you trust him enough not to cheat on you again. give it another shot. if you dont... End the marrage... Relationship is all about trusting one another. ... you also need to think about you're kids. If you really wanna put your kids through this and or Your financial if you can afford to be divorced

If i were you i would get a divorce and find someone new.. He doesn't deserve you honey

[Raphael]

Now this might sound a bit extreme but it might just help you despite the fact that it's a bit weird. Have you ever considered of putting him threw a liar detector test. Ask him the questions you want and the truth shall be told and it might just help in your position. Now some people say "once a cheater, always a cheater" but see, you have 3 kids and well . . . . It's horrible for a kid to know that his parents are getting a divorce and in your case you have 3 children. So leave the divorce as a final decision. And most importantly IF you do that liar detector test. Do ask him the simple question "do you love me". Because well. That's the final answer that counts after all.


I hope i helped!