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How do I deal with family hounding on my relationship status?
03-24-2014, 04:46 PM
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How do I deal with family hounding on my relationship status?
I'm a 15 year old guy, and if any of you read my recent post (posted multiple times to get lots of answers) i am as of now gay. I say as of now because I'm young and there's every possible chance it's a phase, but I'm not sure phases go on for 3 years... And how have I been through some phases! The worst one was the goth phase... Not pretty. Anyways, my family has been asking me about having a girlfriend, why I don't have a girlfriend, they have even gone as far as asking "do you like boys"... As much as I wanted to say yes, I'm not ready. I don't feel like its a safe time. I don't feel like high school is a safe place to be gay, people don't mess with me, but I don't want to risk losing friends or getting bullied. But I'm so tired of people asking... Especially my mom. She is always on my tail, making these little suggestions... She keeps asking me "are you going to winter formal??????. Are you??? Are you taking anyone?? Do you even like girls???" And every time a Victoria's Secret ad comes on or something with half naked girls she says "do you not like that???" She says she's perfectly fine if I am gay, and she has made that clear numerous times.... But she asks constantly and she won't stop until she gets what she wants... I think she wants me to be gay honestly, because she is dragging me out of the closet... I love my mom with all my heart and I would die for her, but she is such a gossip! Even if I did tell her I was gay and that she needed to keep it a secret, I'm sure my phone and social media would be buzzing like crazy within an hour of telling her becuase she can't help but to gossip. So yeah, I guess you could say there is a bit of a trust issue, since all of her friends know about my severe mental issues and that I take medication... Yeah, that was a fun one to explain to my friends... (Moms friends are all moms of kids in my school, word gets around quick)... My mom can be kind of a bully... One day I got in the car after school and she said ”do your friends think your a fag?... Just with the boots, the candles you buy, the Starbucks you drink, and how you dress so well... Do you like boys? Let me know if you like boys!" I felt like crying, because I think she is the one who thinks I'm a fag... I'm not really masculine... I don't play or watch sports, I don't wear any athletic clothes, I like lady gaga, and a bunch of other stuff that's stereotypically gay... What do I say the next time she asks? Because I'm getting kind of depressed about it... When I'm ready to tell her I will, but I'm afraid I'm going to get so mad and just confess everything on accident.

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03-24-2014, 04:48 PM
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you dont have to tell anyone anything, you dont owe them an explanation

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03-24-2014, 04:53 PM
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just tell here you don't feel comfortable talking about it and you will when you're ready.
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