Why does my ex gf do this?

[Alex]

My ex gf after 2,5 years was interrogating my friends about me at the party I was with them. Why would she do that? She does as if she's very happy and over me etc. (She dumped me btw) she was asking how I was doing and if I thought it was difficult. My friends said well you fucked it up bcos I did everything for her and she went quiet..during the party she didn't look me once in the eyes, when I looked i could see her eyes avoiding me

Also on social media she puts since we broke up lots of 'extremely' happy videos and pictures..
She really brings the message that she doesn't want me back, but I have a bit of mixed feelings

(We were together for 2,5 years, had something really special. Best buddies, although I did everything for her and loved her a lot.

[pepsionice]

Sometimes....you look at a situation, and make a decision (based on what you see today), and then act on the decision. Then, weeks later....months later.....you realize that you really didn't make a bright or competent decision. You have some regrets. You wish you had shown more patience. Backing down from a big decision is almost impossible. So you carry on....then you have more woes and sorrows thinking over this episode.

In this case, based strictly off what you write......your friends told her blunt truth. She was hoping that everything done and she could really try to forget about a bad decision, which has yet to happen.

My humble suggestion is to go ahead and forget her....move on. There's too much drama in this episode.

However, I believe you'd like to settle things to be absolute in your move forward....so you want to have one final chat or face-to-face meeting. My suggestion would be to ask someone who knows both you and her.....to have a brief chat with her....coffee meeting perhaps. The question you want this person to ask....IS SHE over you now (yes or no, no middle-answers). If she answers that she's not, and your associate comes back to report this to you, then I'd suggest one simple act.

Find some short romantic poem about love found/love lost, and ask someone to deliver it to her with this short note.....basically saying you haven't found the best way to move on, and you think a face-to-face good-bye would be better so you can get some things off your chest, and she could get some things off her chest. Nothing else to be suggested. A coffee meeting at a public spot.....geared to be the final chat and talk so you can both move on. If you screwed up in the relationship....think and explain how you did it and be humble in your thoughts. Note that it's been an interesting experience, and you appreciate the little things that she did for you.

Maybe something happens....maybe nothing happens. Accept that as FATE, and move on. Fate is a wicked and wonderful thing. Somethings, it works for you.