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He's not talking to me :/ I need advice (long, sorry..)?
03-24-2014, 04:56 PM
Post: #1
He's not talking to me :/ I need advice (long, sorry..)?
Well this guy and I have both known each other for over a year. We've been "dating" since we've known each other. Last semester, he had broken my trust. Things haven't been the same since. He kept contacting me over the summer, but I was trying to move on. But then in September he came back into my life asking for a relationship, but I told him not this semester.
Regardless though, we've been out on dates. Then one day we had a talk because I got mad at him, and he brought up that our communication is off. I told him it's probably b/c of what happened in the past. He said if we want to take the next step, then we need to work through the past.
But, unintentionally I keep pushing him away. I would feel attached to him, and then push him away in fear that I would get hurt again. During Thanksgiving break, I kept responding back really late. When we got back, he told me to text him when I'm on my campus so we can hang out, though I told him pretty late.
3 weeks ago he was acting weird, though on Tuesday night out of nowhere he told me goodnight. But the next day was my Chem exam and he didn't text me at all, not even to say good luck, though the next morning he asked how it went and said hopefully I did well. Then for the next 2 days he would stop texting me out of nowhere though he did say he was stressed about finals and needed to catch up. And on Thursday some guy was selling tickets for a comedy show, I texted him asking if he wanted to go, but then the next day I changed my mind.. he didn't respond after.
Saturday morning, he asks to have a talk. We set up a place and time, though he backed out and asked to speak the next day. The next day, he never texts me. So I texted him it's not ok to keep me hanging, and he said he apologizes he doesn't mean to, there's just a lot on his mind, and it wouldn't be fair to distract me with his problems especially with finals coming up. So we decided to talk it out after finals.
2 days later, I decided to ask how he's feeling. Literally one minute after I texted him, he said he was feeling better but he still needs to catch up with finals, and asked about me. I said same way, and he didn't respond back. We haven't talked ever since, it's been over 2 weeks.

So yeah, that's what has been going on. I even had a dance recital 1 week ago - he didn't show up. Over Thanksgiving break he told me he was going to, even wanted to make me a poster... A part of me feels as though he's distancing away from me b/c he lost feelings, though that doesn't make sense. Another part of me thinks I'm over-thinking - he did disappear from all of social media. But Monday was the last day for finals, and he did say on Twitter that he's done.

Should I text him? Wait for him? Or just completely move on? Today is Christmas... should I wish him a Merry Christmas? I think it's messed up the fact that he's ignoring me, whether he lost feelings or not, especially since things have been going on for a year and then he disappears? Idk

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03-24-2014, 04:59 PM
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I'm a dude, never been in a relationship like this but I wish I was that guy so I could be in love and happy like that. So here's what I'd do if I was you.

It seems like you want to be in a realtionship with him. You should man the duck up and tell him. Say something like this.

"I know that we have been distant recently, but I want to talk about our past and move on forward and be in a relationship with you. I really care about you and although I know you have a life of your own, it hurt me when you didn't text me good luck before my test or when you didn't come to my dance recital. I didn't know till now but that apparently meant a lot to me. I want to be with you, so that you and I don't have to miss out on those moments in our lives."

And then add something like this.

"I don't know what you have been doing lately, but I want to talk about if you want to be in a boyfriend/girlfriend type of relationship with me. This is important to me and I would like a answer before new years."

If he say's no, then you know now instead of waiting and hurting. If he say's yes, then your in love. My email is lightsaberchimney at yahoo dot com, please email and tell me what he say's back. I'm rooting for you love.

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