Girl I've been talking to recently said she needed some time (bear with me, long story)?

[Daniel Tosh]

Met a girl online (I'm 23, she's 19) about a month ago. Talked for a week on the site/texting eventually. Then things moved fairly quickly once we met: Slept at her place the first night we met (Saturday 2/1 no sex), she slept at my place back-to-back nights the following weekend(2/7 and 2/8 sex on both occasions), went out to dinner for my birthday this past Tuesday, she slept over again (2/11) and that's when I noticed she was a little more distant.

*IMPORTANT* She kept texting the same guy, Matt, and mentioned that he was a 28 year old Australian father of a 5 year old she nannies. He was asking her to come over, flirting, etc. and she was responding with the same flirtatiousness it seemed. She told me not to worry, she just wanted to get paid well. I put it out of my mind but noticed she wasn't as cuddly as she had been previous nights. I asked her what was up and she told me some really personal stories of her past, and that she was "darker than I knew". I really like this girl so, the next morning before she left, I asked her what she thought about being bf/gf and she responded with "Just give it some more time. It's not a bad thing you asked, but give it more time." I felt kind of weird about it, like I rushed her, but felt fine about her response. A day went by and I thought everything was fine, although we hadn't texted all day(2/12).

HOWEVER, last night (2/13) before going to bed I checked twitter and saw she had tweeted, at 1 AM mind you, "this aussie though ". My heart sank, I got cottonmouth and couldn't sleep at all. I've been trying to piece it all together but my friends tell me to give her some space and if I still feel weird by Monday, confront her then.

I sent her a Happy Valentine's Day text when I woke up and it said she read it, but haven't received a text all day.

Thanks for reading the whole thing!


I just need any advice/help on what to do here, if anything. Idk if I should text her, give her more time, or just give up on her. My friends told me to either give her more time then confront her about it when shes ready to talk or just move on and find another girl.

Thanks in advance

[Micheal :)]

I read it all, tbh if I was you give up on her it seems like she doesnt want you anymore. Im a girl and the only reason why I'll do that to a guy is if I dont want him anymore

[Jacqueline D]

Obviously she is not that into you. I am a woman and if I really like a guy and he sends me a Happy Valentines text, I would text him right back. Also, saying that she is flirting with this "aussie" guy, so she can get paid more, in my opinion, is kind of manipulative. I would not want someone like that in my life. If she manipulates one person, then she will probably do the same thing to you. You deserve better, move on.

[Daniel]

Wow man, this post is deep and kind of hard for me to respond to.

I know that feeling of seeing the person you want acting the way she has with somebody else and it hurts.

There is no easy road in a situation like this because she doesnt seem to see any wrong in doing what she is doing.

I have come to see recently that even the nicest girls seem to care less about the genuine boys that want them.

You need to distance from her a little as much as that is going to hurt you.

I have had to do the same thing with my ex very recently and it hurts.

It'll be worse at the beginning but hold out for a while and you'll be okay.

Never message her first, if she messages you respond but not too full on.

Be distant because the more you fixate on this chick the more you'll hurt if she doesn't stop with the Aussie.

Its the hard truth and im sorry to tell you but its either stay speaking to her or distance yourself and feel okay in time.