Should I give him another chance?

[madison]

Basically I broke up with my ex 8 months ago, simply because I felt we weren't really going anywhere. We were only together for 4 months. He really liked me though, more than I liked him. He were a great guy. Anyway, he messaged me on facebook 4 weeks ago basically saying sorry for being a bit of a dick with me (which I didn't understand cos he were the nicest guy ever) and I told him that, but I apologised aswell because I knew how he felt about me. I asked if he wanted to meet up as friends and he said he'd love to, but when the day came he were ignoring all my facebook messages and didn't end up meeting me and he didn't even say sorry or tell me the reason why... Until 4 weeks later (which was yesterday) he told me he were so sorry for letting me down he just didn't know how the day would of turned out and it scared him a little. I accepted his apology because I know that he's not a bad guy and what he did were totally unexpected. Anyways we carried on messaging eachother and we were getting along fine, this time HE asked me if I'd like to go to the cinemas some day this week and said he'd definitely turn up this time because he regrets not meeting me when I asked cos he really wanted to... Would I be stupid to meet him or does he deserve another chance? I'm a bit worried he'll do it again, but he says he won't?

[Dairyman]

No. You shouldnt. Sounds to me like he has another gf already. Hes pkaying games with you because he probably feels he got played first.

[Doug H]

This is a tough question because you said you broke up with him because your relationship wasn't really going anywhere. Well, its sounds like this relationship is all about you. How about how you may of hurt his feelings when as you say, he was a great guy. Here's a guy doing his best to show you he cares about you and you dump him for what....? Not cheating on you, not lying to you, not stealing from you, not doing drugs but because your bored. Then he apologizes....I guess the saying, "Nice guys finish last is true..." Maybe he should of let you know he had second thoughts about meeting up with you....I can understand why he would have second thoughts about that. However, you felt hurt that he stood you up and now maybe you can understand how he felt when you dumped him because he gave you a lot and got dumped (meaning he put a lot into it) but you just said you'd meet with him and got stood up (you didn't really lose anything compared to what he did as far as the relationship goes). I think the real question is, do you deserve a second chance with him.....? I say no because you don't really like him like that (your not in love with him) and you will probably dump him again when you realize your back in the same situation you were in when you dumped him the first time. I say no because you would be slowly destroying one of the good guys, you would be ruin him for the next female who deserves a nice guy. You should spare him the pain of saying your a great guy but not my type or your not good enough for me or whatever the case maybe. Your not a bad person just because you dumped him because you were bored or didn't have any chemistry with this guy but you would be doing him a grave disservice if you gave him a second chance knowing that your not into him and knowing how he feels about you.