I want to save my relationship?

[Jeffrey s]

Me and my girlfriend have been together for 4yrs. We have been through a lot of ups and downs. It was a beautiful relationship though we had a lot of misunderstandings.
In the month of March she broke up with me after a fight and didn't speak to me for two months. I tried apologising and fix things..she didn't give in. I was devastated and unfortunately at the time met someone on Facebook..we started speaking and getting to know each other and things started developing me and the new person. My girlfriend found out about this relationship and decided to come back to me..she tried every possible way to come back to me..I was being a strong headed guy. Thinking that she wants to come back just bcuz she saw with someone else.even in the past she broke up with me for her ex and decided to come back to mesince I have always shown her love and accepted however she came to me..after a few days I got to know that the person that I met online was fake..someone was trying to get money out of me..during the times me and the internet girl spoke - there were instances where I spoke about intimacy,marriage and kids so and so forth as I was really devastated bcuz even after loving my girlfriend so much all she did was breaking up and coming back to me. Me Andy girlfriend got back after me realising that I have hurt her too much and also the account was fake..it was a beautiful relationship I ever had..until the last few days where she went into my Facebook account and read everything that me and that person spoke..she was devastated that I lied to her about marriage,kids.Cuz after we got back she asked me these two questions and I said I didn't speak about them and I just couldn't tell her about the whole thing because she was already having insecurity issues after we got back. I was thinking of telling her the truth but then before I could, she found that only Facebook. Now she decided to stay alone cuz she is badly hurt and tells me that she has lost her protected feeling widme

[Softtouchmale]

Any woman that comes into, then out of, then back into, then out of your life, is not worth wasting your time on.

In all candor here, she is not committed and never was. She left you to go back to her ex-boyfriend and came back. What does that tell you? You were not at the top of her list.

Then when she saw you talking to someone else, she realized she was about to lose you. So she tried and tried. Then when you realized you were used by some moron who was just playing with you, you got insecure and took her back.

My honest appraisal of this situation, based on what you wrote: You and your girlfriend, ex-girlfriend or whatever she is at the given moment, are two very insecure and hyper-sensitive people.

If she is angry about the things you wrote to the fake moron that plagued your life, she ought to consider the fact that you feel like you can't communicate with her; and likely she has had a hard time communicating with you.

So instead of both of you remaining committed to each other and working through your issues by speaking to one another, no matter how much it hurts, and trying to discuss things and reach something called a consensus, you both throw a fit and walk out.

If you want a real, dedicated, committed relationship then you have to work on it. Not once, not on the rare occasion, but all the time. If you don't you end up with the stinking mess you have on your hands right now -- both of you.

Perhaps you both need to take a break from the dating world, and just talk. No sex. No dating. No hanging out. You sit down and talk about your issues, and listen to each other. When you do that you'll discover anything's possible.