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Reasons why I should have more privacy online?
03-30-2014, 06:49 AM
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Reasons why I should have more privacy online?
Today I had an argument with my mother about how I need more privacy. She doesn't understand that privacy is all teenagers my age want online (I am 16 years old). I ended up deactivating my facebook and twitter, only because I'd found out that my mom got a notification for every status update, and looked at my page on twitter whenever she found out I tweeted something. I mean, I know that there are creeps out there, but I'm not stupid. I don't add people or let people follow me I don't know in anyway. That's her only reason she has, and my only reason that I can think of is that I need privacy. She doesn't even knock before she comes into my room or bathroom.
Also, everytime I blocked her from a status update, she got around it somehow.

Do you have any better ways to say what I need do say, or some sort of compromise we can come to?

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03-30-2014, 06:53 AM
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Ask her why she doesn't trust you and why she does this.

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03-30-2014, 07:01 AM
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Change all the notification settings she has that notifies her, and change your password ON EVERYTHING. Make your Twitter private, only viewable by people who follow you. Do the same with everything else.
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03-30-2014, 07:12 AM
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No such thing as privacy online. Every key stroke is recorded somewhere and then
hackers have access to your every thought. Be grateful that your mother loves you enough to track where you go and who you talk to. Sexual predator's are very good at pretending to be a teenage boy. They know just what to say and how to say it. It is a good thing you are not stupid but you are far from being Internet wise. If there is something you don't want your mother to read or find out about never put it online for the whole world to read. As for not knocking before entering just have a calm sit down and ask her to please knock because you are no longer a small child and would like your privacy. Also never put your picture on the Internet. Why show sickos
what you look like?!
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03-30-2014, 07:20 AM
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Your mother is only worried about you, but at your age I do think that she has taken it a bit to far. My suggestion is that you sit down one day and have a heart to heart talk with her. During the talk use "I feel" statements (like "I feel that I have no privacy at home" or "I feel like I cannot communicate my friends in private") and DON'T use "you" statements (like "you don't give me any privacy" or "you are always reading my comments on facebook"). "I feel" statements usually lead to a better conversation while "you" statements usually lead to an argument (I'm in psychology and I often tell people to do this when they are having communication problems with others)

Tell her that you would like a little more privacy as you are growing up, but that you understand that she is just looking out for you. Let her freely see your facebook page and explain to her how you are safe about using it. For example, show her that everyone on your "friends" list is actually a friend from school or actual people that you know. Explain that you do not friend strangers. Show her the privacy settings on your page, and that you are not revealing any information (don't put your address or even birth year or cell phone as visible on facebook). Show her how careful you are. Show her your pictures and that they are not revealing anything bad. After all of this, tell her that you feel uneasy when she checks every comment you make to your friends because it seems like you cannot speak privately to them.

Understand that since you are under age, your mom had the right to keep a close eye on you, but hopefully after the conversation, she might loosen up a bit.

Oh and most importantly don't yell or raise your voice...even if she doesn't agree with you...that will only show that you are childish....and if you did yell in the previous argument, apologize and say that you want to have a discussion about the subject
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