Why wouldnt this person forgive me?

[melissa]

i was in a relationship, adored the person and they know i would do anything to make them happy, kiss every inch of their body, it wasnt obsession just adoration lol anyway i broke up with the person over fear of not being good enough plus i listened to a divorce "psychic" older friend who told me i shoulnt be in a realationship, anyway so we was just friends than i started opening up more to him but he seemed to have gotten more distant or at least it was all in my mind, so one day he txt me an i had a bad day an when he said something i didnt like i just was like we shouldnt be friends anymore, i deleted his number on a impulse, now month an half later couldnt get in contact with him, so my friend let me send him a facebook message through her account because i aint got one, i wrote him a beautiful e-mail apologizing an telling him what i learned from this...i learned ALOT, i learned that you will suffer when you are not living your truth and when you dont really love yourself, the truth was i adored him but i let fear ruin it., i love myself and see me as a sweet soul.. i Never really done anything bad to him that could not be forgiven, i forgave him for things he said that hurt, i mostly was good to him and he knows why i had so much fear was because of my disfunctional childhood etc. plus im moving in june to go to school, my question is: WHY WOULDNT HE FORGIVE ME OR AT LEAST WRITE ME? IM MOVING SOON AND HE SUPPOSE TO BE SOMEONE WHO LOVE ME., WOULDNT HE AT LEAST TRY TO TALK TO ME BEFOR I LEFT..WHAT SHOULD I DO? SHOULD I WRITE HIM AGAIN? maybe im looking at the situation in the wrong way

[Laura]

Well, if you were nasty to him before, of course he won't. You could etch an apology in gold, but he'll never forget what you told him.

[Dustin]

Well there are easy answers here and difficult answers here. Some of which could be taken the wrong way so I guess you either take this as a professional talk or you get mad.

This is the deal...forget the "psychic" while I do believe that certain people hold a bit of an edge on sixth sense type stuff it is more commonly a over exaggerated "good" guessing technique discovered through live experience. You over reacting was just flat out that, an over reaction which you obviously know and have admitted to yourself and him. GOOD FOR YOU, most people do not even have the guts to do that these days so you are a step ahead of the game if it was sincere. He is not contacting you or letting you get through to him because you really cut him deep with no warning and he is confused and basically respecting your decision so as not to upset you, at the same time you have shown him that you are sorry and wan to talk again he still has a fear that you will just do it again. NOW while you should have maintained control here and you didn't don't let it eat you. We are all human and prone to error, it happens. Try not to focus on anything that you did for him because it makes you seem like he should be wanting you back, which maybe true but you still hurt him. He has feeling too, and now you need to let those feelings heal. There is no saying he hasn't forgiven you and you just need to be comfortable with the fact that you have forgiven him. He will get a hold of you after he feels right with the situation but do not push it. If he really loved you and you shared a deep emotional bond this is not the end UNLESS you really are not giving the full story and something else way worse happened. Just give it time and do not force it. All will be right and you will hear from him.

Life and Relationship Coach