GIRLS what do you honestly think? I'm in a tough situation and I need your ideas and advice?

[687]

Ok, so there was this girl who i went out with for a while and she had a huge crush on me. She dumped me over a text saying it was because i didn't talk that much. I was really heartbroken cause i really liked her a lot and she was my first girlfriend. Also cause she was my first gf and cause I'm shy, I was really nervous around her, which was the reason I rarely talked. I thought if that was the reason she dumped me, that I could work on overcoming my nervousness and she might want me back. So a week after she dumped me, I tried to talk to her about how i really liked her and that i'd try to not let my nervousness overcome me, but I could hardly talk straight cause I was so nervous. Then after that I sent her a message saying what I would've said to her if I didn't mess up. She still wouldn't say anything to me.

So that's my backstory. Now this is where I want . So after all that, I was still pretty heartbroken and I still wasn't sure if she realized how much she meant to me. She still didn't talk to me, so I wasn't sure how to tell her, so I thought of an idea. I made a twitter account and added her. All I put on my page was a few tweets. This is what i wrote (there more than 1 tweet, but I this was all the tweets in order) “I really thought this would work. I really with you would give me another chance. One chance is all i ask for. You really mean a lot to me and I really miss you. ” Then I found the song “Who's crying now” by journey on youtube and tweeted it's link.

Heres the forestory (or what ever you would call it) 3 weeks after she dumped me, i found out from a friend that she said to him that the real reason she dumped me was because she really liked another guy. After that, I lost interest in her, but I forgave her and I had no hard feelings because we used to be really good friends and I wouldn't want to have a girlfriend who would rather be with someone else. Now its been 2 months since the break up. For about a month or so, she has started to hate me and talk sh¡t about me to everyone behind my back. Everyone thinks that she should just let go of it and that she's being really mean and nasty about it. Also they said she said that I stalked her on twitter. I was like wtf, how could that have been considered stalking. For one thing, when i added her, her account wasn't private, so if I was actually was stalking her, I wouldn't have added her and did all that, cause that would be a stupid thing for a stalker to do. Secondly, when i saw it, she had hardly tweeted, so how can you really stalk someone who doesn't put on hardly any tweets. Oh yeah, shortly after i added her, she deleted her account.

You now know what my story is and some of what my ex said, so here are my questions. Why is she still not over this when she is clearly wanting another guy? (btw she flirts a lot with him) Why is she being so mean about it? Do you think that was actually stalking or her overreacting?

I just want to try and understand what is really going on with her and this whole situation. My friends(who are also close friends of hers) and I don't really know what is up with her and why she's like this. Also, I would really like to end this, so what do I need to do to get her to get over this? I know this was REALLY long and I really apreciate it that you would read all of this, so thank you. If you would like more details or have any questions, please e-mail me.

Thanks
and sorry if this all doesn't make sence, I'm a horrible writer lol
Ever since the breakup there has been no communication between us, except for those times that I tried to get her back and I've been ignoring her ever since I stopped trying to get back with her
and yeah, i'm probably not that innocent lol

[Shannie]

Completely ignore her and she'll come around.
Maybe for her it's a game.
If not and since she's thinks you are stalking her,like I said before, ignore her and maybe she'll notice you. Or talk to her. That's what she wants, right? talk.

[Isabel]

Please don't act all innocent if your not really all that innocent.

[Caitlyn]

she's just being a biotch. haha. i dont understand why she would still be hung up on that if she was interested in someone else. she must just be an idiot, i cant think of anything better to tell you. just move on and ignore her.

[єєєℓη]

It seems like your ex-gf either still likes you, is having problems with her new guy or realises she doesn't like him as much as you. Or she could feel outraged that you decide to "stalk" her now, which is not something a shy person would tend to do.
Or, she could just hate you really bad and is being a typical b!tch by telling everyone you're the bad guy, and like a toddler is throwing a tantrum.
All i suggest you do, as it seems most ppl are on your side, is simply ignore her and get over her. She doesn't deserve a guy like you.

[bekah <3 <3]

she sounds like a complete bitch...you were nice and let it go...you didn't go up to her and tell how horrible she was for breaking up with you for another guy or anything....i think you should go up to her and tell her your sorry if she you were stalking her...it was not your intentions...and thats all you can do....if she still talks crap...then just let it go...the good friends will stick by you

[Deborah]

for the record I'm going out on a limb and assume that you are in high school or maybe early college.The twitter account although from my stand point is very origanal thinking on your behalf I can see where some one who had a bug up their butt would yell stalking.By the sounds of it you are really better off with out this girl. when she saw you were moving on she got mad. she's one of these girls who they may not want the guy but guess what if they have any say in it nobody else is either.I unfortunatly had a relationship like that too.Is there a possibility that the other guy doesn't want her and she is kicking herself in the butt for breaking up with you so now she has to make herself look better.In your shoes I would ignore the snot. The more upset you get the more it feeds into her. Find yourself a nice quiet girl who understands your lack of conversation skills. Girls like letters, poems(even if you didn't write it but better if you do) cards and flowers(not always from the flower shop either. we appreciate ones you pick yourself just as much if not more). little things like that can say a lot.Its okay if you are on the quiet side but you do need to talk to the girl at the very least about things you both like or even the weather.I think things are not going as well for your ex and now she is all sour grapes about it. she realizes just what a good thing she threw away.whatever you decide, know that even though she was your first girlfriend there will be others. your ex is toxic not to mention rather immature. if you are going to break up with some one you should do it in person.and you shouldn't bash them afterwards.this girl did you a favor by thinking the grass was greener on the other side when by the sounds of it it wasn't she freed you up for a really classy down to earth sweetheart.get rid of the twitter account.

[282]

Well I'm definitely on YOUR side, if she wanted someone else why would she go out with you? She's wrong and especially the part of her talking about you being a stalker and all, so immature and disrespectful. I say YOU let her go, screw her, if she hates you, why should you get her back, if she's the one who let go and if she's really a friend SHE would say sorry, no one else. And, yes I did read the whole thing.