How to get over someone?

[Katherine]

this will be quite long sorry but yeah , Im 18 years old when I was 14 I had my first love and we went out for over a year but for the last 10 months he abused me physically and we split ages ago but over the past year after that I was really cautious of boys especially since I was young and still now and I knew it wasn't wise to settle down at a young age , but September last year i met this guy I will just say his name was Joe , now the thing about Joe is he smokes a lot of pot dropped out at year 11 and is very immature and he is always causing fights and nobody really likes him , anyway me and Joe started hanging a lot just talking at the beach driving around then it started getting closer him and I just a few cute little kisses and then it happened . I could feel myself falling for him and I didn't want that because of my previous ex , months past we had an on again off again thing after a while I started falling in love with him ( yeah that quickly I know I was just a stupid teenager I guess ) but we would always fight which was the main problem but anyway Joe then started hanging out with this new kid called " Sam " now Sam is like facebook famous because he looks like one of those emo kids on tumblr and he plays around with a lot of girls hearts as soon as he came into the picture Joe started to change and push me away more I mean he was like this before I knew from the start he wasn't good for me and everyone said I could do better but yeah I always stuck by him but our fights became more huge and we would always be on again off again then after a while he didn't seem to care , I found out a month ago I am pregnant to his kid and when i tried telling Joe his mate Sam twisted the truth and said It wasn't his kid , so Then Joe went to ignoring me full stop and not supporting me through this and what makes it worse is Sam totally changed him . But what is also worse is that around december last year i found a love letter to Joe from a girl who is in love with him , Joe said there was nothing going on between them but since he has been ignoring me the girl admitted through the whole relationship with me and Joe she used to come around to his house and do stuff with him and Joe told her he loved her ..... and now admitted in a 5 min convo last week he was still in love with me now he has a new girlfriend as off yesterday and she is actually one of my work mates and he says he is happy with her and everything . Im still carrying his child and planning to have an abortion ( which is wrong but yeah .. ) I feel so hurt I know everybody hurts but I really needs some advice to get over him .. like now I know he wasn't good for me and I know how horrible he is but I still love him and It hurts seeing him Happy with someone else after he ditched and betrayed me like this please help :"(

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[Brandon]

I find it hard to love someone if they don't love you back. Lets be honest, this man is a player and he obviously likes to get with more than one girl. There are plenty of fish in the sea, and there is one waiting for you out there. Just move on from this one and go find the one.

[Rachael]

So the one thing I got from all of that is you dated a guy who is a player and now you are pregnant. Joe has done you wrong. Sam has done you wrong. And now you are erasing the only proof that you ever had that your did not cheat on Joe as Sam said that you did? That is stupid and selfish and murderous. You want Joe to believe you and feel like a schmuck? Have the baby who will look just like Joe and has Joe's DNA ring the doorbell and when Joe comes to the door drop the baby off with a box of diapers, some wipes and a tub of formula and some baby bottles with the words "congratulations you are now a father". And walk away. That will cramp Joe's style for sure. Here is what I don't get. If you know that abortion is wrong, why go through with it? If you know that it is wrong it will haunt you. If you aren't ready for a baby leave the baby with Joe. Nothing says that men can't be single father's. It is not child abandonment if you leave the child with the father. But Abortion is murder. Pretty soon if you go through with this abortion you will be getting over something much weightier than a broken heart you received from a player. So give birth this way the only problem you will have is a broken heart and Joe well. He will be getting just a part of what he deserves. Though I would say it is the better part.