I think my girlfriend is cheating on me ?

[086]

I have a sneaking suspicion that my girlfriend is seeing at least one other guy ( possibly two ). I have asked her about my suspicion and she told me about two guys that she was interested in but she said she let them go. I have seen a change of her attitude over the last month. She has gone from being very sweet and loving to picking me apart everyday when I see her. Just little things...for instance, I have been working out a lot and lost a lot of weight. Nothing that I have fits anymore. She will fuss at me because of this in an resentful manner. I am buying more clothes, however I am not well off enough to go out and buy a new wardrobe all at once. She talks about her guy friends with utter adoration. She usually makes me feel like a schmuck. We used to text each other throughout the day just to say hello and keep in touch. She would send most of the texts and I would reply in kind. I am not normally one who would text that much but I found it enjoyable. The other week she said not to text her unless it is something very important. She did not have time to respond while at work. I said ok but I find this odd because this girl is a text machine. When we are together either she is nose deep in facebook and/or she is texting "friends". She is Always checking her phone. The house could catch fire and she would not notice until her hair was going up in flames. Half of the time she barely hears what I am saying. I have spoke to her about this and she became very angry. She is very secretive about her telephone and computer. At times when I approach her while she is texting she will move her phone away as to hide the screen. Anytime she leaves the room she takes her phone with her. Its so blatant that I cannot help but notice this. Anytime I am texting someone she will ask in a rude manner who I texting. I do not text often often and when I do I am usually responding to my daughter. I do not keep my phone locked and have offered it to her anytime she wishes because she gets upset anytime I do send a text. I have nothing to hide. The other she saw me checking my email on phone and asked what was up. I told her I keep a track of what my daughter purchases iTunes. I mentioned that I had hacked my daughters phone so I could keep up with actions ( I do not have a FB account and my daughter likes FB ). My girlfriend almost lost her mind and told me she did not like that. I was surprised at her response. She was very angry. I explained that I am just being a mindful father. I have been in IT Security for 20+ years, and hacking a phone is child's play. She made a point to tell me that she is changing the code on her phone ( even though I have never asked for it ). She makes a point to ask for her "me" time. I am ok with that, no big deal. However at times she will change "our" plans/date night because something has suddenly come up. Yesterday she told me that she was going to lunch with her sisters and then to see a movie with them, I thought nothing of it however, she kept calling me and acting very nice while speaking. This is out of her nature because as of late she has been nothing but ugly. She even texted me before the movie to say no one showed up and she was going to see the movie by herself. I offered to come see the movie with her but she said no do not bother. This has happened a couple of times over the last month. Last night she mentioned one of the guys that was there before me. How he needs a friend and she is talking with him. I did not say a whole lot about it because it was not really a concern. She quickly asked if I was ok and if I am worried out of the blue. Then makes a remark about how a family member mentioned to him that he should fight for her. Later in the evening she acted extremely nice to me, really, really nice...basically out of character.

Honestly, this is becoming too much maintenance for me. I do not want to hack her phone or email. Its not worth the trouble. We are only dating. I am about to give this girl the boot However, I wanted another opinion to see if I am crazy or not for thinking that something is up. My gut says yes :-(.

[Joe]

If your gut says yes (And even if it didn't, she is exhibiting all of the signs) I'd say to give her the boot. Even if she is still being faithful to you, the way that she talks to you and treats you is unacceptable. If you're in IT security, it sounds like you make a good living and have a decent head on your shoulders. Let her become some other guys problem. You can do better.

[Bryan]

Ok i Didnt read all of that. But skimmed through it. Shes testing the waters for sure. Once she gets a nice boat come along shes Probably gunna humo off your ship. Your guy feeling is usually Pretty accurate. Atleast mine is.
And if you do breakup know that there is others out there. I was with a girl. When I was 16-21 we brokeup. Now im a better person and I get alot of attention from ladies. Never look back. You will become stronger emotionally.

[Vikings]

I would dump her. Some of that behavior is very unacceptable to me as a guy as well.