What more can I do to make a mends?

[The Hated Step Mom]

Been married for about 6 yrs to man who has kids from a previous marriage. the kids are 17,19 and 20. Before the kids turned 18 we got the kids every weekend from Friday until Sunday evening. Now we only get the 17 yr old from Friday to Sunday. The problem is the kids have never really liked me. Their dad was alone since divorcing their mother who has been with 5 men since the divorce. The kids have always liked her BF's.

These kids have talked crap about me on myspace, twitter and Facebook which we are not friends with each other on these web sights. I have put up with the daughter having a ring tone "hey the bit-- is calling" when I called her. Which I have never called or texted her. I told my hubby about this he passed it off and said just let it go. His son threw a huge party with drinking at my home one weekend and detroyed alot of things not to mention cigarette burns in the furniture. My hubby told him he owed me an apology, to this day I have never received one. The youngest son somehow got into my facebook and obtained private messages between me and a co worker who's daughter he has problems with. There was some stuff about him in that message and things that were private. He showed his mother, sister and my hubby. They flipped out on me. This boy invaded my privacy. He said the message just popped up when he turned on the computer. Anyone knows this is a lie if they have facebook. None of the other messages came up except this one. I promised to deactivate my Facebook and Twitter account, disconnect the internet from the house as well as sending the boy an apology. I sent the apology via email but the boy wanted it in person. They recently got onto my computer and changed all my settings. When I confronted my hubby with this he said he didn't do it but has never confronted the kids about it.

These kids still come to my house every weekend and don't even acknowledge me. To me it seems they can get by with whatever they want including invading my privacy, going into my bedroom to get the computer and being able to do what they want.

I am sick of always letting what they do go and me having to pick up the pieces or be the one to apologize. What more can I do to make a mends? It sure does make for an uncomfortable weekend with no one speaking to me and my hubby doing everything with them while I just sit here.

[me]

why do you allow this? they go into your bedroom? your husband is not respecting you so why should his kids? have a talk with all of them and tell them, not ask, but tell them what you will no longer tolerate, and don't cave in. YOU DETERMINE HOW OTHERS TREAT YOU. and talk to each of them directly, don't be going to your husband about them, he's clearly not concerned at all about your feelings, privacy, or respect. tell him what you need and insist on those needs being met. demanding that people don't walk all over you and treat you like garbage is not too much to expect from people, EVER

[Love]

Do what is best for everyone including yourself and strangers, that's love