relationship problems?

[mariposanegra]

So my boyfriend of five years on and off broke up with me but the break up was so weird first able he was joking with me were both laughing together remembering all the good times we had together during the relationship remembering the good times we used to have when we went together on trips to Atlantic city then in the mixed off it all he told me I wasn't his girlfriend and that he was not my boyfriend and also that there was no relationship then we continue hanging out talking laughing joking and still remembering the good times together then afterwards he told me I looked good that I look beautiful and we continue talking then he took out his wallet looking to see if he had enough money because he wanted to take me to a motel to have sex with me finally he decided to leave so I say bye to him and I almost walked away he asks me to walk him all the way to the train station so we go walking together it felt like he didn't want to leave me but then he deleted his facebook account

[Carol]

I'm sorry but it sounds like your relationship is over. I'm sure you'll find someone else who deserves you.

It's sweet that he was remembering the good time you had together and was getting closure. But then that leaves you hanging and confused about is intention. Perhaps you need to find closure as well but in a different way since he's no longer accessible. Good luck.

[Helpful Answers]

I think you're the better person here. It's not THAT he did it but rather the EXTREME WAY he did it. His communication skills sound lacking and no doubt you've experienced a few red flags over the last 5 years. Something is definitely troubling him that he can't seem to express to you face-to-face so he's resorted to talking strangely, acting erratically, and by deleting a Facebook account which ends contact not only with you but also with the world.

It's very possible that the demons he's fighting stem from issues he's never shared with you.

If he's open to talking openly, hear what he has to say. If he's not going to help himself, it's probably going to be a rocky ride if nothing changes and you get back together with him. Putting a band aid on another person's open wound won't help in the healing process.

Good luck to you.