HELP! How do I tell a guy who's in a relationship that I like him?!?

[questionasker11]

Ok, so a bit of a story here. Last year I went to this college, but now I'm at a different one because it's degree program is much better than the one I was at.

At my old college from last year, there's a sophomore (guy) who's in the same organization I was in and, I go back and visit the people in the organization because the university is in my hometown. So, when I go home I stop in sometimes and say "Hi".

Anyway, this sophomore is really good looking, and I've found myself crushing on him since I first met him. He's good looking and seems like he's just a fun person to be around.

(sidenote: we're both guys. I'm not a girl.)

I added him on Facebook and we're Facebook friends, but we never really talked. Eventually, he requested to follow me on Twitter, so I accepted his request and I followed him back. Now, we tweet a lot back and forth, and I'm finding myself crushing on him super hard again. We, more recently, got each other's phone numbers and text from time to time. Nothing crazy or serious though. (Mostly about going to parties and such. Haha!)

I've become better friends with this guy I like and go to his parties when I'm back home from my university etc.The only problem is that he's in a relationship with a guy right now and they've been together for 10 months now. They both seem to like each other a lot, but they do fight a lot (over petty stuff I might add). Also, his boyfriend graduates in 2014 semester....and sadly the guy I like is trying to speed up his own graduation so he can follow his boyfriend around post-graduation life.

For this New Year's Eve he and his boyfriend invited me over to his boyfriend's house for a party they were having. We get along really well and chatted and such. At the party though the guy who I like and I were on opposite teams for a game of flip cup (Woo! College! lol) and we were bantering back and forth and having a good time with it. We just gelled really well.

After this we watched the ball drop at their house, and I had to stand there while he and his boyfriend kissed each other. That was just heart wrenching, although his boyfriend whispered in his ear and told him to kiss me on the cheek...which didn't happen sadly.

After the ball dropped we went to the bars and I was basically a third wheel for them...but they didn't mind. At one point, jokingly, the guy I likes boyfriend and his boyfriend sandwhiched myself inbetween them and danced on me. It was funny, but once again...the guy who I like and I clicked with each other and said the same sentence to each other at the same time and just laughed with each other.

At one point the guy who I like and his boyfriend and I were discussing the types of people we've all dated. The guy who I like said, "I've only dated white guys." Mind you, I'm Latino. I told him jokingly to, "maybe expand his horizons" and he laughed and said, "Maybe I should." To which his boyfriend said, jokingly, I just broke them up. Too bad it wasn't true! Haha!

Anyway, after that we went back to his boyfriend's house and chatted some more and then we all went to bed. I was on the couch in their living room though. Haha!

(sidenote: we're both guys. I'm not a girl.)

Regardless, him and I just get along with each other and it just feels so right...but he's in that relationship. And at times it seems like he flirts with me, but nothing hard core.

SO...now I'm back at my house now and I'm totally having feelings for him again and I just don't know how to tell him and I don't know what to do with my feelings!! I find myself kinda saddened knowing he's taken.

I mean...I REALLY like him. I'm on college break and have been snowed in lately and I have nothing but time on my hands to think about this and it drives me crazy.

Does anyone have any advice as to how I should go about approaching this? Like I said, I can't get him off my mind and I just don't know what to do.

I just need some help/advice. Anyone? Sound off please!

[Z â–²]

You do not. He is in a relationship.

[Xx9211997xX]

Well, I think that you should let it be. If it's meant to be it will happen. If you said something now, he might get angry and not want to be your friend anymore. Or maybe things would just get awkward. Either way, your friendship might be ruined. And if you just can't handle being around him and his boyfriend, then you have two options. Tell him, and expect to ruin the relationship, or just put distance between yourself. (Sidenote: In my past i've notice that doing things selfishly and impulsively tends to ruin friendships and puts you in a depressive mode. So if you really have to do something about I suggest you just put space between you two.)

[Nicole]

I know how you feel. It sucks. But things do get better. Try not to consume yourself with this same thought. It's just gonna make you really sad. Try to get your mind off of him while your on break. Try to talk to the guy you like a lot more just text him and say hi what's up. Try to slowly get closer with him and he might start seeing you as more than a friend especially if he fights a lot with his boyfriend he'll surly need someone to talk to (you) try noticing other guys at your new school. So you don't hurt with just the thought of that guy with someone else. It's hard but you can do it. If you really wanna say how you feel. I suggest you ask him out for cofee casually one day. And just slowly try to ask how his boyfriend is and how there doing so he get to thinking about the fights. Get him to vent to you and when he gets to thinking more he might just make himself mad. Then try to calm him down after and when you both are silent just say you have to tell him something.