I'm very depressed. I need you to help me?

[Anastasiya]

Hi. I'm ugly. I'm fat. I'm in high school. I have only about four friends who are very close to me. Two of them are in my math class, and the other two are in my history class. History is period 5 and math is period 6. I did very bad in math this past year, but am showing improvement. My Assistant principal said he is switching me to double block math- periods 5 and 6. Guess what? I'm going to lose all my friends by switching and never see them as we have 6,000 students in our high school. I also don't have a phone and no twitter, facebook, etc (as I fear of getting judged). I've talked to my assistant principal and begged him not to switch me but NOTHING helps. I don't talk to therapists and my parents laugh at me when I tell them I'm insecure.

I'm already insecure about my appearance, and that made me depressed. My friends were like medication for that. Without them, I'll die.

[Jackie]

High school is a tough time. As you grow older you'll realize that a lot of your anxieties in your teen years are not realistic and you are stronger than your insecurities. Life isn't always going to go your way. Stay strong and believe in yourself. If you have low self confidence it will show and make you appear less friendly and less approachable. Respect yourself more and tell yourself you are a confident person. You're only as ugly and fat as you see yourself to be. If you love yourself more you'll realize you're not as bad as you think.

Depression can be treated naturally if you're willing to work hard to better yourself. Try eating healthier and exercising even if it's just going for a 10 minute walk around the block fresh air helps! Also try writing in a journal. Expressing yourself can help you figure out solutions to your own problems and let you see errors In your thinking.

Cheer up!

[Onlooker]

So, let's look at this a different way. How about you're a person who is capable of making friends, who is improving at math, who has come up with a strategy to avoid abuse (by staying away from social media), and who has the courage to speak up for herself to the assistant principal. (You're also a good speller and good at grammar.) So I suspect you're pretty smart. You'll make new friends. That won't be your problem, but it might take a little time. The thing to work on is your self image. First, beauty really is in the eye of the beholder. Second, if you think you're unattractive, then explore the internet and figure out how girls make themselves more attractive by looking at pictures of girls like you. Different clothes? hairstyle? make up? jewelry? And make some small changes to your life -- go for walks, leave a slice of toast out of your breakfast, allow yourself only one sweet every few days, etc. and try to lose some weight. Given your self image, you should talk with a therapist. You're the kind of intelligent person who could probably get a lot of out of therapy, but you need to find a therapist you're comfortable with and work towards opening up with him or her. It can take time. But, remember, you really have a lot going for you.

[Misaki Mei]

If your not satisfied with your life then all you have to do is repent. Be sincere. Repent and ask Jesus to come into your life to fix it. You just have to ask him and mean it. And he'll reveal himself to you. Thats all it takes. "Heavenly Father, I know that I have sinned against you and that my sins separate me from you. I am truly sorry. I now want to turn away from my sinful past and turn to you for forgiveness. Please forgive me, and help me avoid sinning again. I believe that your son, Jesus Christ, died for my sins, that He was raised from the dead, is alive, and hears my prayer. I invite YAHUSHUA(Jesus) to become my Savior and the Lord of my life, to rule and reign in my heart from this day forward. Please send your (HOLY SPIRIT) to help me obey You and to convict me when I sin. I pledge to grow in grace and knowledge of you. My greatest purpose in life is to follow your example and do Your will for the rest of my life. In YAHUSHUA's name I pray, Amen.

[deanne]

If you actually are overweight and not just having a teenage i-am-too-fat thing, then overhaul your diet. You can lose 10 lbs/mo with this low-carb food/exercise plan:

Breakfast: Cook oatmeal or health food store cereal in water with wheat bran. Make a pot of it on weekends and nuke 1/2 cup each morning. Then stir in low fat milk or yogurt, banana, walnuts and berries. Drink hot Ovaltine. Breakfast should be your largest meal of the day to raise blood sugar level which falls during the night.

Lunch: Egg, tuna or turkey ½ sandwich on multi-grain (not just whole wheat) bread with bean or alfalfa sprouts, yogurt, fresh fruit. If you had meat loaf for dinner, bring a meat loaf sandwich on whole grain bread (NO mayo). On cold days, a squatty thermos of hot chili, split peas with ham, or beef stew.

Snacks: Fresh (not canned) fruit. Nothing ever from a vending machine. Fruit smoothies (frozen thawed fruit, yogurt, banana)

Dinner: salad with white meat chicken and fresh (not canned) veggies: tomatoes, 2 kinds of lettuce, 2 kinds of shredded cabbage, shredded or sliced carrots, alfalfa or bean sprouts, zucchini, green or red peppers, hard boiled eggs, brussels sprouts, broccoli, cauliflower, tofu, cottage cheese, spinach...Instead of dressing, squeeze 1/4 tomato over it.

Or homemade bean/vegetable soups; great way to recycle leftovers.
Or grilled fish with steamed veggies.

Or omelet: In blender, whip together eggs, tofu, cottage cheese, onions, garlic powder. Cook with mushrooms, chopped tomatoes and green or red peppers.

Avoid junk food, fast foods, anything from a vending machine, gluten, pastries, desserts, syrup (even canned fruit in syrup), peanut butter, fat/grease (pork, wieners, chops, bacon, salami, pizza, chips, fries), pasta, potatoes, ramen, popcorn, white bread, rice, canned veggies, ice cream (it’s lard + chemicals), chips, tobacco, alcohol (damages brain).coffee (carcinogenic). no oil except olive and mac nut. Sodas (loaded with toxins; leads to stroke, obesity, kidney damage, high BP), anything with sugar (cancer cells feed on sugar, it wreaks havoc on your liver, mucks up metabolism, impairs brain function, makes you more susceptible to heart disease and diabetes),

To keep your skin clear, drink water, tea, veggie juice, unsweetened fruit juice.

Join a gym; they have all the equipment and staff to show you how to use it to get the look you want to achieve, but you have to ask them. Much cheaper than buying your own equipment. Go hiking, biking, jogging, bowling, swimming, rowing, jump rope, play tennis, badminton, volleyball, soccer, jumping jacks, lift weights, trampoline? To tone your tummy, do sit ups, push ups, pull ups, leg lifts, butt raises and crunches.

For more energy, take Super B complex.

You can still se your friends outside of school, weekends, vacations. Eventually friends part in college or after so dont depend entirely on them.

Find a big happy church, attend some groups there and have fun. Talk with the pastor or youth pastor. They have more wisdom than you and I. And where else can you get FREE counseling?

Troubled people need peace; a good pastor can show you how to have perfect peace. God loves you more than you can possibly imagine