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Should I share show clothes with my friend?
04-07-2014, 01:21 PM
Post: #1
Should I share show clothes with my friend?
Hey everybody, I need some opinions...
Ok so my friend and I and starting to show our horses and with show season coming up we are looking for clothes and such. So, a while ago we were planning out how to make showing simpler and we thought we could share show clothes!! Ok, good idea, because we are almost exactly the same size, I'm just a little smaller.
But, i thiught about it and began to not not really liking the idea of having to share thing that I would need to show a horse wi so,some who might need them on the same day as me, like if we both went to the same show and both needed the chaps for western, or we both needed the good velvet helmet for eng,ish, and so on and so forth, so I kind of dismissed the thought of sharing show clothes a long time ago, thinking she'd forget.
Well, now the topic has been brought up, and idk how to respond to her, bc she might take it the wrong way. She says it would be cheaper and simpler for us to do that. I say it might be hard to make sure we actually "share" them and make sure we each get them when we need them.

I'd like to know what u guys think and how I should tell her that I really just don't want to share show clothes with her. It's not that I don't trust her, I completely do. Does anyone have any other opinions ? Why you think it's a good/bad idea to share show clothes?

Thanks in advance Smile

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04-07-2014, 01:30 PM
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Just tell her you just want to get your own clothes, it won't hurt her feelings. Everyone has one of those awkward friend moments, but a true friend won't get mad at you (:

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04-07-2014, 01:46 PM
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you can share, just talk about exactly what you will share and for what show with lots of days in advance.

so, if you both wanted the same thing on the same day, then use your friend skills and say: "well, how about this time, you use it and next time we both want the same thing, I'll get first pick."

take turns on the favorite items in other words.

sharing can be fine....and making it work is easy if you are truly friends, then you simply take turns.

If you don't think you want to do it though, then if you are truly friends, she'll understand. If you're not really friends, then she'll get mad because she can't control you.

So, you can just say, "No thanks. I think it'll be too complicated."
A true friend would then say, "ok, cool. I just thought I'd ask."
and would then move on and forget about it. simple as that.
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04-07-2014, 01:59 PM
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Tell her what you said here. If you each have your own, you can show together.
You might want different colors too.
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04-07-2014, 02:15 PM
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No is a complete sentence.
"Sorry, I've changed my mind about sharing show clothes. I'm just not comfortable with it".
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04-07-2014, 02:19 PM
Post: #6
 
I would avoid sharing your show clothes if at all possible. As you brought up, there may be times when you have classes right after one another, or even want to compete in the same class. If you have a class right after your friends, the judge won't care if you're still changing into your show clothes; they'll mark you down as a no-show. Plus, if you're showing in hot weather, one of you is bound to get a little sweaty. Are you prepared to share a helmet that is still sweaty inside, or breeches that have the infamous "butt sweat"? I know I wouldn't...I'm all for sharing and caring-especially between good friends-but I have my limits.

I would definitely recommend against sharing a helmet...you should each get a helmet that fits you personally...an improperly fitted helmet will do nothing to help you in the event of a fall. And what happens if one of you does fall? A helmet should be replaced every time it hits the ground; after that it's no longer as safe as it's designed to crumple to protect your skull. Even if there's no obvious damage to the outside, you can bet there will be damage on the inside. How will you handle the situation if one of you falls in the helmet? Are either of you willing to pay the other back for their portion of the now unsafe piece of safety equipment? Or will it become an issue? I think it's best not to find out, and to just avoid the situation altogether.

Speaking of falls, what happens if one of you has an accident while showing, and the shared clothes get muddy, dirty, or even ripped? If you are sharing those clothes, there won't be time to wash them if you're both riding on the same day.

Who will keep the clothes when not being used? When I was younger, my friends and I had the brilliant idea to do basically what you're talking about. We started sharing things like clothes, purses, etc. with the agreement that we would trade off with one person getting the item for one week, the next for the second week, and so on. Inevitably every single item got "misplaced" while at someone's house. I ended up paying plenty of money to share items I never saw again.

When talking to your friend about it, try to explain it to her from HER perspective. Instead of saying "I might not get to wear the clothes if you go right ahead of me" say "YOU may not get to wear the clothes if I go right ahead of you". People tend to listen a bit better when you explain the situation from their point of view.

Tell her basically what you said here; if she understands and respects your feelings then it's not an issue. Recommend that she check out used show clothes; there are plenty of websites on Facebook that are centered around trading tack and riding clothes. If you buy a quality, lightly used item you're likely to pay about the same amount as if you had shared the item.
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04-07-2014, 02:23 PM
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Even I think that is really gross and low class, and I live in a trailer.
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