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Do I have a right to privacy in this situation?
04-08-2014, 04:04 AM
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Do I have a right to privacy in this situation?
My mom is forcing me to give her the password to my twitter, facebook, tumblr, itunes, and youtube. I do post some swearing sometimes but it's not a huge deal. She goes through my itunes often and gets mad at me and forces me to delete songs. Now shes asking me for the password to my laptop, and she says she "trusts" me. I refused to give her the passwords and I told her that I have a right to privacy and she said "PRIVACY DOES NOT EXIST FOR 15 YEAR OLDS. PRIVACY MY ASS YOU DONT HAVE ANY, I AM YOUR MOTHER, YOU BETTER GIVE ME YOUR PASSWORD."

Do I have a right to privacy? Because sometimes I vent on my tumblr about things I'd rather her not know about. Last time my friend and I got in a fight, she messaged all people involved on facebook, called her and her mom, when it wasn't even a big fight and we made up 4 days later.

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04-08-2014, 04:11 AM
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Yes you do have the right to privacy and your mum obviously doesnt trust you at all. I used to keep a diary as a kid and I know my mum never read it - that is trust.

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04-08-2014, 04:16 AM
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Of course you have a right to privacy! Everybody does! Make an account, don't use it, and tell her the password to the second account. EASY AS PIE!
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04-08-2014, 04:25 AM
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I'm pretty sure that the childrens rights convention explicitly states that children have a right to privacy.
Parents are crazy these days.
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04-08-2014, 04:31 AM
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In my house the person who pays for the facilities sets the rules. It's called the golden rule. He who has the gold, makes the rules.
You are a minor. You have no right to anything except to be free from abuse.
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04-08-2014, 04:36 AM
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She can't force you to do anything. Just don't give it to her, she obviously doesn't trust you and I think its rather stupid parents going thru their childrend social networking and text messages.
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04-08-2014, 04:38 AM
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Well honestly, because you are under 18, she can make you give her the passwords. But as for the right to privacy, I think you have the right as long as you aren't doing anything you aren't allowed to do that would get that trust taken away. But even if you should have privacy, your mom is in charge of you for 3 more years, so you may have to give her the passwords or she might take away your computer or something like that. I would say try to negotiate with her. Tell her that you have done nothing to lose her trust. If she asks something like, "Well if you aren't hiding anything, why won't you give me the passwords?" then just go right out and tell her that it is because she goes on your accounts and embarrasses you. Tell her about that fight you mentioned and what she did and say you don't want to be mean but that she is embarrassing. If she doesn't let down, I don't know what to do. I guess you will just have to deal with her messing in your business. Good luck.
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04-08-2014, 04:46 AM
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absolutely yes you do. She can't force you to give her your passwords. So just keep your mouth shut, look her right in the eye, and accept any punishment. The other person who talkd about "the golden rule" is incorrect. Your an amarican (im assumeing) , you have a right to privacy, the president him self couldnt take away. That means your mom can't either, unless you let her.
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04-08-2014, 04:55 AM
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Well, it all depends.

Are you trustworthy? Do you get into trouble at school often? Are you falling behind in school? Have you ever gotten into trouble with the law? If any of these answers is yes, then no, you do not deserve privacy (except for the school one - that should be coupled with something else, since there are several reasons kids fall behind in school). When you're getting yourself into trouble and leading yourself down the wrong road, she has every right to interfere so that you do not end up in even worse trouble.

However, if you do fairly well with things - you stay out of trouble for the most part at school, your grades are fair, you've never been in trouble with the law and tend to stay away from illegal substances - then there is no reason for her to need your passwords, and you DO deserve privacy. You give up that right to privacy when you decide to get into serious trouble, but if you're doing well, then she's the wrong one here. Your mother does NOT trust you. My mother has never and would never ask for my passwords. My dad asked for my Facebook password once, but I told him that was an interferance of privacy, so what we did was this - He made an account as well and made me add him. That way, he can see whether I'm doing anything classless, but he can't read through my personal messages or change anything. Just because you are 15 does not mean that privacy does not exist for you.

About a year or so ago, when I was either 15 or 16, my dad went into my room to dump out my trash can. He found a notebook I'd written things in that I'd thrown away, and took it out of my trash can to save in my room. I found it when I went in his drawer (with him sitting there) to find some nail clippers. I recognized it and asked him why he had it, and he said he thought he might like to read it someday. I told him that it was an invasion of privacy, that I wrote my thoughts and feelings down in there, things I'd written to vent or to let things out, and that if I'd wanted to tell him, I wouldn't have written it into a hidden notebook. I pretty much keep on the straight and narrow, aside from the usual occasional bad grade or not doing something when he says, so he told me just to go ahead and throw it out, and that he wouldn't take it again.

You are your mother's daughter. You are not her property. You do not belong to her. Your thoughts and personal feelings are for you and you alone; You decide what to do with them. It is true that she makes your decisions for you until you are 18, but that should exclude deciding whether you even get to have your own thoughts. If there's one thing that should belong to a child, it is her thoughts, feelings, and opinions.

Your mother has already shown you that she cannot properly handle your small problems by inserting herself into you and your friend's argument - that was not her place. You are 15 and will be getting a job soon. You are also in high school. You need to learn how to resolve things with people on your own. She cannot hold your hand throughout life and solve everything for you. You must learn to do it yourself. You are 15, not 5. You know enough to be able to have a conversation with someone and resolve disagreements. If she cannot let you do this, then she is too overbearing.

Talk to a counselor. Maybe they can suggest a way to get through to your mother.
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04-08-2014, 05:04 AM
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Heh..my mom demanded my Facebook & iPod password. My mom has my itunes password but doesn't care as long as I don't download like, porn or bomb making instructional videos. She goes on my Facebook & I'm not allowed to swear. You're mom is nuts..just saying. But alas, privacy apparently doesn't apply to teens.
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