Ex-boyfriend: Is he rebounding? Any advice?

[TheLovelyStrange]

This is kind of a long story, so bear with me.

My ex-boyfriend and I began dating in high school. He was a year older than me. We dated for 2.5 years; we made it through his first year of college and then we made it to November of my first college semester. We were each other's first love. We had gone to the same high school, but once he went to college we were in a long-distance relationship. Our relationship was very mature, and no I'm not just saying that. We always tried to communicate as well as we could, and we took our time to make sure we did everything in our relationship correctly. After about a year of dating, my boyfriend began to tell me that he could see us getting married. After he started college, he asked me what I thought about getting married after my junior year of college. He told me he didn't know what he would do if we broke up and that I was his perfect woman. He said he wouldn't even know how to ask another girl out if we broke up.

This past December, I decided that we should break up. It took me a long time to make this decision, because he was truly my best friend. I didn't really want to break up with him, but I felt that we both needed some time alone to do some individual growing/maturing. We had a very good breakup at first, and we agreed to be close friends.

About a month after we broke up, I realized I still had strong feelings for him. We were still talking, but something felt...off. In early January, he told me that he had found another girl, someone he goes to college with. He called me and said some really nasty things to me. He said that this new girl would only date him if he cut off all contact with me, because her last boyfriend had left her to go back to his ex-girlfriend. I was heartbroken, and when I began crying and asking him not to leave my life, he said, "At this point, I would be willing to do anything to get what I want." Finally, I told him I would leave him alone and he hung up. I felt horrible. One of my friends was so angry that she contacted him and told him he needed to apologize to me. The next day, he called me and apologized. He told me, "I absolutely do still care about you. If you were hurt or if you got very sick, it would crush me. If you left my life forever, it would leave a huge hole." We agreed to go into no contact for a while; he said he would contact me again sometime before I left for London in June. This phone call was on January 29th. I asked him, "Hypothetically, if sometime in the future we are both single, would you be wiling to give us another chance?" He hesitated for a bit and then said, "Yes. But don't cling onto that." I said I wouldn't.

Three days after that phone call, he made his new relationship Facebook official. When we dated, it took us 4 months to make our relationship official. It took him 2 weeks to do the same thing with this new girl, so this news crushed me. His new girlfriend began putting up pictures of them together the next day, so I decided to block him on Facebook and Twitter. I talked to his mom and sister, who said they were also shocked at how soon he was going into this new relationship. Before I blocked him on social media, his tweets seemed strange. I feel like he's changing into someone else, and not for the better. When I dated him, he was not like any other guy I had ever met; he was sweet and very considerate. But it seems like he's turning into the typical college douchebag now, and I'm worried about him. I know that isn't who he wants to be.

We've been in no contact for a month, and I'm doing much better. I'm actually really happy and my self-esteem is higher than it's ever been. However, I haven't fallen out of love with my ex-boyfriend. He was my best friend, and I was truly comfortable to be myself around him. My friends think he is rebounding, but I don't know what to think.

I guess I'm just looking for an outsider's perspective on this whole situation. Any advice that anyone has to offer is welcome.

[john]

If you're worried if he's rebounding then it shows you're still not 100% over him, which
you mentioned.

You have to ask yourself one question: Will you be more over him if he was single, or
will it be harder if he was with another girl?

Make your feelings independent of this fact.

Think about these questions, and if you do decide to get him back,
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