Confessing to a girl that probably doesn't like me. Is this a good way to do it?

[R3D Anonymous]

So I am sort of at the stage where I am not really her friend because we haven't talked to each other really about our personal lives yet. The reason we sort of know each other exist is because I asked if she wanted to be in my quintet that I am arranging (I play violin and she plays viola) and she said "yes". And I was giving her updates on the quintet. Now for the past few days, I have started saying, "Hey (her name)" to her every day in the hallway with a smile and sometimes even a wave, and with enthusiasm (because I really like her). She says, "Hey (my name back)," with a little smile. That's basically how it's been going for the past week. For the last couple of days, I have been having brief conversations with her (like less than a minute) about stuff in school and last week I complemented her on her shirt.

For the last few days, it's been extremely brief sessions of small talk really. Nothing else, and it only lasts for like 30 seconds and once a day. Other than that, if I see her in the halls, I will say "hi" to her. Part of the problem is that every time I talk to her, she seems to conclude the conversation pretty quickly as if she's always "busy". I mean she's nice and polite (something I really dig), but our conversations haven't really lasted. That's why I am getting the sense that maybe she's not interested

Well here we have an unfortunate turn of events. She officially withdrew from the quintet today because she is busy with something else that day, which really sucks because I was going to ask her to hang after the rehearsal. Well anyway, the problem is I don't have any classes with her except orchestra (where I can't really talk to her except for a minute before or after class). She has noticed me looking at her a few times though and I think she definitely knows something is up because today in the hallway when I passed her later she was looking at me (but not smiling).

So I think most likely, I have been rejected. But the thing is, I don't want to give up until I have made it CLEAR that I like her. Do you think it's a good idea if tomorrow I go up to her and smile and calmly say, "Hey (her name). I just wanted to tell you something. I know this will sort of sound shocking, but I have been kind of interested in you...you know...that way." Not word for word, but SOMETHING along those lines. I just want to confess my feelings to her before I completely give up on her, you know? If she says she doesn't feel the same way, I don't care (well I do, but I will feel better than if I don't say anything). I will just tell her, "It's okay. I just wanted to let you know. Thank you for not laughing in my face or embarrassing me otherwise and farewell," or something along those lines. Do you think this sort of "last chance" approach is a good idea at this point? Because we don't see each other much except passing in the hallways (and I do say "hey" and smile almost every time I do) and I think she's starting to think, "Something is up with this guy. He's saying 'hey' to me every time he passes me in the hall. He keeps looking at me in class and in the hall. He smiles at me. Yeah something is up." I want to get it out of my system and confess before I start working on moving on.

In the slim chance she says that she's interested too, I will just tell her how it means a lot and ask if we can exchange numbers and maybe set up a meeting outside of school. But that's probably just a fantasy.

[Cold]

Just because you've been friendly towards her doesn't mean she knows that you like her. If I see someone I know in the hall, I always say hi and smile whether it's a girl or a guy. I hope every person I do this to doesn't assume I have a thing for them lol. It's just being friendly. So don't assume she's somehow subtly rejected you either. For one, it sounds to me like she's probably shy and maybe even nervous around you because she likes you, too. I know that I always am polite and friendly towards my crush, but when we actually talk I get really nervous and don't contribute much to the convo and basically try to rush off as fast as possible even though really I'd love to talk to him all day if I had it in me lol. So I think you should keep trying with this girl. With that being said, I don't think you should just kind of randomly approach her and pour out your heart. That could be a little too overwhelming for her, especially if she really is on the shy side. I think next time you see her in the hall you should try to walk with her and just start up a friendly conversation, or add her on social media and talk to her on there. Get a little more friendly and then confidently approach her and ask her if she'd like to see a movie, grab dinner, etc. Good luck

[beaniebabie7]

It seems like you've already made up your mind, so I say go for it. It probably is a good idea to get it over with, so in the chance she says no you can move on. But I think maybe you shouldn't outright say what you're feeling, maybe instead ask if she wants to get coffee with you or something. That way you guys would actually get the chance to talk. And if she says no to the coffee thing, then I would take that as a hint of her not being interested