How to gain my pride and dignity back after an unfair break up? feeling down..Really need your advise.?

[Paris]

It all started when suddenly he started ignoring my texts and calls, so i thought he might need his space and gave it to him..however i maintained to be friendly and not freaking out and waited until he is ready to explain what is going on and why he is acting so weird. after a week not hearing from him i tried to reach him and he pretty much put me down and broke up with me over a text msg, giving the "it's not you. it me" reason and that it's for best. nothing more or less. I was so shocked and upset that he did this over the text and not even giving a reason why..after a year being together and having a really good and fun relationship/friendship i deserved to know what i have done that made him to do this to me..anyway i went on No Contact for a month,,he didnt reach out to me either..we are still friends on facebook and he seems like having good time with his life, and happy (which im glad he is) but at the same time i am so hurt by his actions. After a month no contact I texted him pretty casual and friendly how he is doing, he read it and never responded..I feel like i gave him way to much power to treat me like this...

I'\m just so hurt and angry at myself to put myself in such position so he can treat me like crap. now after all this i know that i dont want to be with him anymore even if there is a chance.. I just want to get my dignity and respect back not letting him feel like he is in charge..just very emotional right now.. PLEASE TELL ME WHAT TO DO.. GOD BLESS.. THANKS..

P.S NO MEAN COMMENTS PLEASE, YOU DONT KNOW WHAT PEOPLE GO THROUGH SOMETIMES. THANK YOU

[Vyktor1971]

I have never understood the female need for "closure". You are no longer dating...there is no power or control in the relationship.....there is no relationship. Men don't want to be your friend. He broke up with you that way because he is a jerk, or there is something you are not telling us. Bottom line is there is nothing to be learned or gained from continuing in any way in his life....move on to better things.

[Mommyma]

I have been there girl. I hope you feel better. You need to move on. The truth hurts, but it is pretty obvious that he has lost interest. Once it is lost he will never get it back, so move on. Get your mind off of him, and that might include deleting his facebook so you're not tempted to check up on how happy he is. He lost interest: and that is a blessing because there is someone out there who is better for you who is going to come into your life and treat you like a princess someday!

[Daniel]

Not much, don't retaliate, it still means to you. And it's not about revenge. You'll be loftier without payback. (This will also grant you a certain kind of payback, secretly it'll sound as if it doesn't matter to you. A person might lose interest in someone else, but not themselves. Therefore it'll burn, given time.)