How to deal with a friend who is a pathological liar.?

[Katelynn]

My best friend of 12 years just won't stop feeding me lies...

Back in July our friendship was put on hold, almost ended, because she was making up lies to several friends and a potential bf, she did this because she was jealous and wanted those friends all to her self...

As of December, we're friends again, but she won't even admit to or take responsibility of her actions... She's trying to convince me that someone hacked her FaceBook account, that whomever hacked it sent those lies and tried to ruin my relationships with other people, that she would never say those things. While telling me these lies, I showed obvious sings of disbelief, so she started making lies to cover up and keep pace with her other lies... I showed signs of disappointment, and after a while I told her I didn't want to talk about it... But I didn't know how to confront her... I wanted to say "stop lying to me, you're not fooling anyone. Why can't you admit to your actions?" but didn't want to scare her away and lose our relationship... I felt like she was trying to run away from the truth. She was so nervous, shaking even, like she was afraid of me.

She's always blaming every action on her bipolar one. She's 20, will be turning 21 in June.

I don't want to just end our friendship, we've been though so much together... She's like a sister to me, and I don't have any family besides my mother. But at the same time, I can't stand being lied to...

When we were younger I caught her trying to convince my bf (my ex) to sleep with her... Out of embarrassment, she went psycho... Grabbed a pair of scissors and tried to slit her wrists- I had to tackle her and take them away and proceeded to sit on top of her till she calmed down.

I'm afraid that if I don't make her admit to her actions, and I let her get away with it, that she'll do it again... Because this isn't the first, second, or third time this has happened. She has no regrets.
The lied she made up to my friends where about me. Like, telling them I weigh 500 pounds, that I'm nasty, just all sorts of things to make me look bad.

[Praco]

Ever stop to think that maybe you're enabling her by being her friend... As long as you keep on forgiving her, she will never learn her lesson. Liars lose.

[InstantKarma]

You are a far stronger person than I could ever be. I had a friend who lied all the time about everything...and after two years I had enough...we are no longer friends at all. Trust is a big factor in any type of relationship and once you no longer have that, it is pretty much over. The fact that she is willing to blame her actions on being bi polar is sad. I do know people who have been diagnosed and they may get a little crazy in their heads, but they don't do stuff like make up lies or talk badly about their friends. There are several different drugs on the market that help deal with the manic episodes, but this is something she has to do for herself.

[althea]

yeah I know when your friend makes you look bad...

my friend utterly lies to me-she's a horrible liar, she said she makes me look bad and that she lies because...she's jealous, she tried to commit suicide because she said that she's a horrible person and can't keep to accept the fact that she doesn't wanna wake up in reality..at that time I knew she was lonely, until now we still go into arguments, but I just stay patient with her.

everytime your friend lies tell her that you know she is lying, but just gag it a bit so she won't be offended until she just spits out the truth, continue to be a role model and give her a chance in a world outside her lies.

[Stephanie]

Reminds me of a friend that I had. We were friends for 15 years (we're both 23 now.) She was my best and ONLY friend for about 8 of those years. She meant a lot to me, and I totally understand where you are coming from. But, this friend of mine also had some psychological issues that just didn't appeal to me. She and I grew apart years ago, and I was trying so hard to hold on to the friend I had in the past. I would say: take the past with you, and walk away. You need to eliminate the people in your life that you KNOW you just can't save. I did the same. It's been 3-4 years, and I haven't thought about her in a long time. I feel like I don't have to worry about her anymore. She since has been in the paper for DUI's and the like. Those are her problems. She never came back to me, and your friend probably won't either. Your friend tells you these lies because she knows that your relationship is lost, and she just doesn't care anymore. She's simply feeding off of your NEED to be HER friend. Take my word for it, love. You are an intelligent human being, and it is good that you are asking for help. I just wish I had this kind of help years ago.