Husband tagged in ex's Facebook pics... No bashing need advice?

[InkedAngel17]

So today my husband and I (married 9 mths together 3 yrs) were hanging out on the couch. He went into his Facebook page and I'm sitting next to him. And for some reason he goes onto his photos and there were photos of him and some girl he was dating back then. I guess she tagged him or whatever but they were cheek to cheek, holding each other really close. He told me about her couple of times saying she was "the only girl he liked in his line of job" but than found out she started going around. He never gave details. I'm not asking etherThis shit was hurtful to see. Before we got together I cleaned house on all my past. I told him I didn't want bs like this at all and this seems to start popping up. He wasn't bothered by it at all, almost looked like he enjoyed seeing them. Was I wrong to blow up about them? Anyway I think he untagged himself or whatever. I've seen his pics before and had never seen these. Why are they popping up now? Should I be worried or pissed? He is hardly on FB.

[TBONE]

Your jealousy will eventually destroy your marriage. He didn't marry her, he married you. You can't hide or change the past. Grow up.

[freedom fighter]

You are his wife now..the past is the past..he could un-tag himself.

[Angus Grier]

He obviously is in love with this woman, the love of his life. Let his love for her flower and blossom that they may again be together. Do not attempt to thwart destiny.

[David]

You should divorce him now over him being tagged by someone else.

[janiney]

every marriage is going to go thru some hard times. Im sorry you were hurt but when a person tags you on facebook all it really does is sharing the photo. I wouldn't look at it as anymore then it was meant for but what I would ask your husband to do is change his settings so if he is tagged then it wont show up on his wall until he accepts it as a tag. People don't always think when they do something that it may effect another persons relationship but don't worry as long as you come up with a solution and apologize you guys can work it out. goodluck

[fizixx]

People in almost any kind of romantic relationship should NOT have, or use facebook(FB). It's little more than a hook-up, and gossip site. People are irresponsible jerks with it the majority of the time. There are things you shouldn't do when in a relationship....horsing around on FB is one of them.

He said: "she was "the only girl he liked in his line of job" "? What the hell does that mean? It sounds like a giant load of crap to me.

I'm sure it was hurtful, and what you did" "cleaned house on all my past" is exactly what you're suppose to do before entering a new relationship! It's exactly what you do. I think you're the only one that's ever said it 'out loud' on here....so a galaxy of kudos to you for that. Everyone should do this, few actually do. They prefer to drag their poisonous baggage around from relationship to relationship.

Those are the types that looks surprised when their relationships fail, and then they have the nerve to point fingers and stomp their feet at the other person. People are idiots.

I don't know *how* exactly you "blew up".....but I think that was not the right reaction....even tho I understand how you felt. I think you should have held off, and then told him how you felt...*calmly*...later on and then talked about it. I think the bigger issue actually is that he has and uses FB...and...he's already got a woman on there he had the hots for.

The only thing is....he was using it in front of you at the time. If you get too bent outta shape he will just use in secretly, and it will make things worse. Maybe it really wasn't a big deal. Maybe to him there was no attraction other than having female attention....men can like female attention without acting on it. We all like an ego boost.....right?

If you go nuclear about this thing you may turn yourself into an enemy, while in his mind, there was never any breach of his feelings or commitment to you at all. It's possible it was innocent.

You need to mend fences with him now and discuss it and get it settled. Don't go crazy with this, or you'll possibly kill your relationship. That said, you need to be watchful....just in case.

Good luck

[KENNETH D]

Kick his dorry backside

[K8]

You were wrong to blow up. You WAY overreacted. Continue like this and your marriage will not last. We all have pasts before we marry, they do crop up at times, even years later.

[a Guy bein a Guy]

How is her posting HER old pics with him in them your husbands fault?

Get over it.