PLEASE HELP: I got into my FIRST ARGUMENT ever with my girlfriend - am I justified in feeling this way?

[Jordan]

My girlfriend is consistently gushing about Hollywood guys and how hot they are... it usually doesn't bother me. However, after talking with her for an hour about her bad day, she starts talking about this guy on TV who has the same name as me and is SUPER gorgeous, and that she would be "totally crushed" if he was not single. That kind of bugged me, but I just made a joke out of it obviously hinting it was annoying... she KEPT going and said "well, at least you both have the same name" at which point I felt hurt/compared to this guy, and asked her if she was just doing this to rub it in my face... she KEPT going and showed me a picture of him, at which point I got very visibly upset (this is when she noticed, and she apologized) but I addressed it in a mature calm manner.

Today, I asked her if she wanted to meet up and talk to which she replied - "No thanks. Maybe not today, but have a good day!" essentially giving me the cold shoulder... I feel like she's trying to turn it around on me. It wouldn't be so bad, but whenever I even MILDLY find a famous girl attractive, she will get jealous and a bit hurt. So, my underlying point is that she should treat me the way she wants to be treated and that she has a double standard.

[Randy]

Same thing happened to me, but I threw a brick at her

[GTA V]

Yeah if you are not feeling good from this I understand, if she does it here and there but doesn't go on about that's fine, but if she understands that it bothers you I think she should stop and be a little nicer good luck

[MARCY]

LOL Randy.

[Kirito]

I completely agree with your description, you are absolutely right in feeling the way you do. In a way, lusting after someone else is an indirect way of cheating on you. Jesus said in Matthew 5:28 "But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart" The same can apply for the situation of your girlfriend, although she isn't committing adultery since the two of you aren't married. Nevertheless, it is an indirect way of being disloyal to you.

To make things worse, she was clearly trying to rub it in by trying to make you inferior to him. I would suggest that you have a serious conversation with her about her commitment to the relationship because true lovers are supposed to support each other, not put each other down. Ask her what she thinks about relationships and love in general so you can have a better understanding of her character. Hopefully, the two of you can work together to fix the relationship

As for her crush on Hollywood guys, I am sure she will eventually get over it because in one way or another Hollywood stars usually end up in some kind of trouble. Sometimes people don't feel so great about their famous crushes once they get to see them personally because they are flawed just like the rest of us.

Also, praying to God helps because he will give you the wisdom and strength to form strong relationships and he will bring the right people into your life as long as you have faith.


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