How do I keep from losing my man to his pregnant ex?

[Latrice]

I am 33 with one child and my boyfriend 33 with 2 fell in love with him in high school and loved him since. We have been together two weeks everything perfect. Except his no good 25 year old ex who broke up with him.a month ago moved out of state and who is 5months pregnant by him. They lived and were together 2 years. He said he told her he was done. She calls he dont answer she texts no response she even sent him a bday card sayong she never meant to hurt him but hope he be there for baby she told him she wish hed send her belongings cause she didnt want to see him till due date. I asked hiim why not send her stuff he said cause he taking it to her in october and needs to see and speak to her so best to ignore her. He said they cant handle breakup. She lives 5hrs away also found an email he sent her saying he loved her but wasnt meant to be and he was sorry for being selfish holding onto her. And he was coming in oct to bring her stuff then I found another email where he said he was coming to see her in october, and another where she told him to let her know when she's coming so she will know schedule, and is he coming to argue,fight or talk about their breakup cause she wasn't in the mood he said he'd let her know when he is coming and he's not coming to argue,fight,etc. This is his first son so it's a pretty big deal to him. Why won't she go away?why is he sending her these messages? should I confront her online or ask him can I go with him to ensure he's not going to try to work out their relationship or have sex with her. I don't know what to do help??? Also we have no kids together but I hope to one day. He sent her an email saying he loves her twice but has yet to tell me he loves me, he also still has a ton of pics of them on his facebook page.

[Mona]

No matter what, this woman would never go away. They have a permanent connection through this baby. Whether you like it or not, they have to try to be civil for this baby to have a happy upbringing. You should support him and have him support her. It is very hard to be pregnant on your own. No money, no help, no support...It's a sad situation thinking of the future of the baby while they are not together. I've been through it. It's part of being in a relationship with a man who has other children or pregnant exes. Let him go till after the baby is born.

[Keri Adams]

theres nothing you can do it he wants to be with his ex he will but if he's truly faithful then he will be with you like he says. but you may have problems in the future due to him having a child with his ex..thats really all the advice i have for you but just think about it and do what you think is best for you and him it your relationship wil work with him havin a child by someone else then thats great but don't fool yourself because things can change in time especially when new things accur.

[Stanley Harpo]

he always will be conected to her, now just dont force his hand, child support may.

[ashley]

Stop being selfish. They should get together because the baby deserves a family. A mother and a father together. It was your mistake getting involved with this because he will alway want to see his son and she will always be around to do so. Good luck.

[Jo]

Are you serious?

Been together two weeks and you think you have a relationship? Doesn't matter how long you have "loved" him. Totally irrelevant. And after 2 weeks - one would hope you don't have any kids together. How is that relevant?

Again, are you serious?

No, you don't confront her. That's not your place. It's also not your place to call her a "no-good" ex. On what do you base that on? What would you confront her about - this guy isn't married to you. Actually doesn't owe you anything regarding safe guarding this 2 week relationship.

He was with her for 2 years and is expecting a child. So you think your 2-week relationship takes precedence over that? You best think again.

Sounds to me like if he is going to visit her, sends her emails with love thoughts, is acting like he is not over her - then he is not over her.

And you want to go with to watch to be sure he isn't going to try to work on the relationship. Good luck with that. If everything is so "perfect" - why do you not trust him? If you think everything between you and him is going to work - why do you feel the need to babysit him?

Why won't she go away? Apparently she did - at least physically. And because there is going to be a child between them - she never will totally.

Why is he sending her these messages? Because he is NOT over her. Because he still loves her. Maybe he is trying to get used to not having her but he isn't there yet.

Why hasn't he told you he loves you? Because he doesn't. At least not yet - if ever. Because he is still dealing with this other relationship. You may have loved him for all these years but that doesn't mean he loved you then or now. I note you say YOU fell in love - not WE fell in love.


After only 2 weeks - you don't have much leverage here. In fact - what you have is a guy just coming off a break up, expecting another child and is in emotional turmoil and does not know yet what he wants. It takes time to heal from these things and get one's life back together. Dating you for 2 weeks doesn't do it. And a 2 week relationship gives you nothing to try to ensure he isn't going back with her - if that's what he may be inclined to do.

If you are even thinking he may try to work on his relationship with her - then you best think twice about your relationship with him. You can't "make" him feel any way but how he feels. If he feels he wants to be with her and the child - there isn't a thing in the world you can do about it.

And after 2 weeks - he isn't likely feeling as much attachment to you as you may hope and want. And being over-bearing, confrontational, distrusting and a watch-every-move type isn't going to get you what you want either.

Maybe this isn't what you wanted to hear - but it is the way it is.

[RIcky]

she is prego frm him she will always be a part of him wich totally sucks

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