Am I bad person for wanting to dump him?

[Drivenbydesire]

I started dating a nice guy I met on twitter. We often interacted for years and he seemed cool. We’ve been dating for 3 weeks. I’m having a lot of second doubts for the following reasons:
1-He’s 37, a recovering addict who overshares every detail about his personal life on Facebook ( just found that out when I added him; including how much he likes me and what his shrink tells him) and keeps talking about surviving his dad’s suicide. I felt bad for him but when I asked him about it, he told me his dad died when he was 8 months old! It sounds like he’s exploiting a tragedy.
2-His financial situation is a mess. He works at a call center but dreams of becoming a tv host. He lives with 2 roommates cause he can’t afford to live on his own and is working to pay off his debts of over 40,000$. Since I make more money ( I’m a lawyer), I end up paying for our dates. At first he objected but now he doesn’t.
3-He told me he loved me and we were soul mates after 2 weeks of dating and he wanted to introduce me to him mom. Plus he’s always talking about depressing stuff.
4-Don’t mean to sound shallow, but he’s bald, has one leg that’s shorter than the other and has a small penis, which turns me off.
5-I’m embarrassed to introduce him to my friends especially since I usually date good looking guys who have a good job. I wanted to give him a chance because he seemed nice but I feel like I’m selling myself short.
I'm 25 and I want better. Is it mean if I dump him for those reasons?

[Allison]

There's certain things about this situation that aren't bad of you and then there's some situations where I would find you shallow.

The things that aren't bad of you to think
-Spending money on the dates and he's not paying at all. Even if you are a lawyer, he's a grown man that can pay for his own ways. That's not fair of you to be doing all that.
-Telling you that he loves you after 2 weeks of dating, that's understandable. This is an adult relationship and telling someone you love them takes time. 2 weeks is just not enough time.


The things that make you bad
-His depression, now this depends if you want to be there or not. If he's constantly talking about depressing things, you should be optimistic and tell him that he can't be living like that where he's just always being a downer.
-The bald, one leg shorter, and small penis is pretty bad. Some of those things it sounds like he can't help and using that as an excuse to dump him is pretty bad.


Overall, you should do what makes you happy. If this guy isn't making you happy, then you leave him.

[Mizz]

The fact that you thought of all this and spent this time writing it down shows how desperate you are to leave him, if you're unhappy them don't stay in that relationship. Instead of convincing us he's not what you want, admit it to yourself. Give yourself a chance to be happy.

If you're still unsure, wait a few weeks to see if it changes because you have only been dating for 3 weeks.
Good luck