How to handle co parenting from the outside looking in?

[Mike]

I been with my wife since her son was 1- he's 3 now.we have a baby together 2 months old. The baby's father has been in and out of the baby's life. My wife and the baby's father just decided to start co parenting which I thought that was a good decision for the child. Although I think they're taking it to far. Becoming friends in social media sites. Him coming over to hang out with the baby. Them socializing more after the drop offs and them texting one another constantly on a daily basis when it has nothing to do with the baby. My wife always sounds pissed and annoyed at me and when we talk and she can go the majority of the day without answering me and when we do talks she's always bringing the baby's father up in conversation. I'm in the military and unfortunately my wife cannot come move down here I feel as if they are crossing boundaries. She says I'm just being insecure but is it my insecurities or is she writing all the answers on the mirror. Anyone in this senerio??

[Kakini]

wow, ok, they had a child together so something had to draw them together. Your right there's nothing wrong her letting him and the child build a relationship, and it's good that they can still get along around the child. Yet, if she get's mad at for every little thing and can go so long without talking you, even with you gone for periods of time due to your job, something seems wrong. Plus she may fell "lonely" a man knows a man, try looking at the babies father, maybe he's tying to get her back. Or maybe were both (me and you) are just crazy.

[Cassandra]

The fighting all the time over little things, and withdrawl from the relationship is the first sign of infidelity. I always look for those signs with a mate, and if I start to see it, I terminate the relationship. I've been through it too many times. Just not happening.

[Hayley]

I agree with Kakini in your situation, and I am a woman. All the signs are there unfortunately. You could always just come right out and ask her. She may lie and she may not. But it will be up to you whether or not you believe what she tells you. Good Luck!

[alicia b]

Parenting for the good of the child is great but seems like they are crossing boundaries. Sounds like she has more of an emotional connection with him rather than you. If she hasn't cheated physically yet. Her being disconnected from you is always a bad sign