I'm so shy how can I get him to like me?

[Jane]

Well I'll start off by saying that I am extremely shy around everyone that is not my best friend, especially guys and specifically guys I like. And I have liked a few guys before (I'm 16) and I've always been too shy to even talk to them more than a few words. So it never works out for me and I'm getting really sick and tired of it.

So I like this guy now and he is a year younger than me so we don't have any classes together. And I sit beside him in band at school. So we talk then but it's only small talk and usually only about band related things. And I really want to talk to him outside of band but like I said we don't have any classes together and I feel awkward just going up to him randomly in the hall or something. And I don't know what to talk about. And he doesn't have facebook or any social media. And you're probably thinking just talk about anything and get to know him it's not that hard. But it is that hard for someone who is shy. So I really don't know what to do. Because he has no clue that I like him and who knows what he thinks of me. I just want it to different this time. He is different than all the other guys I have liked. I want him to notice me and like me two. I am just so shy I don't know how to make that happen.

[Whoop]

kill that shy and show him the real you/ always think positive to get rid of nervous. make a major inhale-exhale before talking to him...be more close to him and things will just flow smoothly..when you think that the right time has come for you to reveal your feelings, just be true and be you...if he rejects you, that only means that he's not the right guy for you and you deserve someone better...be positive, patient, and smart in everything...goodluck

[Hattie]

I know this May sound horrible but if I was you, you need to get over that shyness!! A lot of guys will get turned of by it, as it makes everything 10 times harder! And more awkward , and your whole life it will be a disadvantage,

Invite him out just say straight up hey do you wanna get together this weekend and then say can I have your number, simples or invite him to a party get mortal and kiss him therefore the shyness is not an issue and also he relieves your flirting

Good luck

[Yash]

It sucks when you love someone but ur afraid to tell him how you feel, out of the fear which results that they don't love you back. #Experience
The best solution is like seriously chuck all your fears and meet him in your band meetings and tell him your feelings for him! Look even I was a bit shy to go and talk to girls at first but later I changed my will and it drastically changed my life too and it was all good in the end!
Look just try to get out of your fears, its hard but do you remember that at school you also felt that some of your lessons were hard but you tried not once not twice but again and again, and you finally felt good and really not only understood it but even enjoyed it a lot!
I would like to tell you that communication is very essential in these matters, forget the world, forget your fears and focus on what you've to do.!!
At first it always feels a bit weird but the second, third , fourth time..it will make you feel comfortable!
Trust me let go of your fears so as to get what you desire!
I would conclude this by saying, never be afraid to fall in love, never pretend to be okay. Most of all, never pretend that you don't love somebody, even if it's written all over your face.
I hope that this helped u a bit!

[Jordan]

Try to ask him out for a date. if you both like to talk about band related things maybe invite over practice playing instruments or go do something related to music. seriously if that's the only topic you feel comfortable talking to him start a relationship based on that then eventually you both well start talking about everything and you conversations will be way more fluid and easy. thinl of him as a friend first but try to give him subtle clues that your into him. ( EXAMPLE hug him for a good five seconds before you leave him tell him you cant wait to see him again. and when you do see him again tell him you missed him and smile right at him. trust me hell know.)

[Antonio 13]

It sucks when you love someone but ur afraid to tell him how you feel, out of the fear which results that they don't love you back. #Experience
The best solution is like seriously chuck all your fears and meet him in your band meetings and tell him your feelings for him! Look even I was a bit shy to go and talk to girls at first but later I changed my will and it drastically changed my life too and it was all good in the end!
Look just try to get out of your fears, its hard but do you remember that at school you also felt that some of your lessons were hard but you tried not once not twice but again and again, and you finally felt good and really not only understood it but even enjoyed it a lot!
I would like to tell you that communication is very essential in these matters, forget the world, forget your fears and focus on what you've to do.!!
At first it always feels a bit weird but the second, third , fourth time..it will make you feel comfortable!
Trust me let go of your fears so as to get what you desire!
I would conclude this by saying, never be afraid to fall in love, never pretend to be okay. Most of all, never pretend that you don't love somebody, even if it's written all over your face.
I hope that this helped u a bit!
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4 out of 5
Thanks to everyone who answered, your answers helped a lot! I realize I have to get over my shyness and I know it will be hard but you're all right, if I want this to happen I have to not be shy and just go for it!
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Whoop answered 3 hrs ago
kill that shy and show him the real you/ always think positive to get rid of nervous. make a major inhale-exhale before talking to him...be more close to him and things will just flow smoothly..when you think that the right time has come for you to reveal your feelings, just be true and be you...if he rejects you, that only means that he's not the right guy for you and you deserve someone better...be positive, patient, and smart in everything...goodluck
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Hattie answered 3 hrs ago
I know this May sound horrible but if I was you, you need to get over that shyness!! A lot of guys will get turned of by it, as it makes everything 10 times harder! And more awkward , and your whole life it will be a disadvantage,

Invite him out just say straight up hey do you wanna get together this weekend and then say can I have your number, simples or invite him to a party get mortal and kiss him therefore the shyness is not an issue and also he relieves your flirting

Good luck