can my ex use this against me in court?

[cali girl]

against me in divorce

My soon to be ex husband hacked into my Facebook and saw messages and photos that I sent 2 other guys within 7 months of being Seperated. I knew it was over and had began moving forward with my life. We have a child together and he had contacted my family and his family to Blackmail me with the information he found. He said he's going to attempt to take my daughter away and use this in court. How is it even valid being that he hacked into my account? And I'm from California so I was told I'm protected from him judging me about dating and meeting other men. I never once exposed my daughter to anyone . Thanks for your help

[RayHere]

Not sure but I believe Cal is a no fault state the judge does not care why your getting devoiced he will care if you put in daughter in any danger or an adult environment but let your ex introduce this then just ask ''how do you get this information?''

[Alex]

I mean he can use whatever he wants but if your asking can he win with that evidence then no he cant also you should let your lawyer no what he did and you should press charges and sue his ass

[Yeti]

If you're getting divorced, you should be consulting a local attorney or legal service who knows your local laws.

He's likely to have problems if he admits he "hacked" your Facebook account. It's not clear how he did that though, such as if you prior gave him your password.

I'd expect him to reference you dating other guys when it comes to custody, but if you guys have been separated, that's a normal thing to happen. The main concern would be if these other guys are somehow harming your daughter. I don't know how he thinks he has something to use against you. Though again, it would help to know what he did when he "hacked."

It sounds like when it comes to custody, you're the one who's going to have ammunition. He's not watching his boundaries, hacking into your Facebook, contacting relatives to "blackmail" you, etc. You really don't want to go overly-dramatic if this doesn't truly reflect what's occurring, but otherwise, it sounds like he's hanging himself. Anyway, I'd consult a local attorney or legal service, and get into more detail with them. If he really truly "hacked," and is also attempting some blackmail thing related to you seeing other guys, they might advise a restraining order.

[jerseyslicki]

Once you or he steps out of that house you are considered legally separated , you can go out that night. Unless he can prove beyond a preponderance of the law that there is child neglect or addictive drug or alcohol abuse that directly deems you unfit to raise your child . He can bring in the pope and he will still be not taken seriously . No worries live your life ,your not the first ,nor will you be the last that has a husband that attempts to intimidate his wife with meaningless bull crap.

[Steffie]

If I was the attorney of record I would bring in the "right to privacy", that it has been breached by your husband - further I would tell the Court that there was a familial conspiracy to BLACKMAIL you that may lead to criminal charges on his behalf....that the child cannot be safe with a HUSBAND who would maliciously PROSECUTE his own wife to USE the child as measure of PSYCHOLOGICAL CONTROL over YOU, to get back at you....and that a child cannot live with such an emotionally unstable father...........

WHETHER you are married or not, you still HAVE THE RIGHT to privacy.....

Anyhow, you could then argue that YOU NEVER went that far to SEE who he was involved with when your marriage was clearly falling apart.

It also depends on what photos you sent - were they photos in the nude?

ONLINE dating would hardly MAKE YOU A UNFIT mother....ANYONE who is trying to find love WON'T MAKE YOU hardly AS SICK as he is with all his malicious prosecuting going on of you...

many men DO NOT EVEN CARE about their kids, THEY JUST use them in divorce cases to HURT THEIR WIFE, as a way of soothing their BUTT HURT ego.

intrusion to "save the kid" whilst he is threatening to PUT HIS WHOLE FAMILY ON YOUR CASE...confessing to BLACKMAILING attempt, constitutes harassment, and you can get a PROTECTION ORDER against him AND IT WILL BE OF IMMEDIATE EFFECT................at least a temporary one, until you can get your ATTORNEY to MAKE IT A FINAL ORDER...AND he has no grounds to DEFEND it other than being a huge jerk trying to save face ...

[Athena]

He "hacked" your "FACEBOOK" account?
Wow, a regular Swordfish now isn't he.
AND you are sending compromising pictures of yourself to any guy you meet and Facebook?
Gee MOM, I see no problems here.

Yea, unfortunately it establishes a pattern of behavior.
Now, the judge might not give a darn, but odds are you will have at least JOINT custody.

Do what Spielberg told Barrymore to do. Keep your cloths on for a while, OKAY ? You are a single mom now. You have twice the responsibility.

[pragmatism_rules]

File a police report now for computer hacking, invasion of privacy, and blackmail. If he is criminally charged, he isn't going too look too good himself on the moral front...especially since he committed at least one felony and you didn't. Don't wait for the custody trial...file that police report now. And, then put away your computer and cell phones...don't use them but keep them as they may be evidence (especially if as I suspect, there is keylogging software in both. Buy a brand new computer and cellphone and only use those devices...and change all your locks, including for your car...and get your car checked for gps tracking devices.

As for if your ex can use this, not if you have a good lawyer. The information he gained was done illegally and that makes it "poisoned fruit"...ASK YOUR GOOD LAWYER about that. Good luck and God bless.