Should I be worried about my girlfriend's guy-friend? GIRLS HELP PLEASE?

[anonymous]

Hey everyone. My girlfriend told me about this guy she's been talking too. I feel threatened by him and I'm not sure if I should be or not.

I thought they were just friends until the guy messaged me telling me she was flirting with him. The guy told me that she was calling him "babe " and stuff like that...so I went and did some research. I went on instagram and saw conversations between him and her via instagram direct where he said "i love you" and she said "i love you too". Theres another message where she sends him a cute picture and he goes "awww". She commented "adorbs" on one of his instagram pictures and also likes all of his instagram pictures.

The thing is she gave me her instagram, facebook, twitter and every other social media info that she owns so i basically have access to all of her accounts. I don't know if she's just that stupid or if they are actually just friends.

I brought the topic up to her and we had a large fight. She told me that they were really good friends because he had been through the same issues that she had such as one of her parents dying and others and he could relate to her and she could talk to him about it because he understood.

She said every time she brings up her self-harm/cutting to me I just yell at her and it just makes it worse. (which is completely true, i do yell at her). She said she didn't think calling a guy babe was a big deal but she said she'd stop anyways.
She told me that she was being all cute with him because he was close to killing himself and she wanted to make him feel loved because she didn't want him to die. Which is why she said i love you too when he said i love you etc etc.

No matter how hard I pester her she refuses to admit she ever had a crush on him or ever liked him as more than a friend. She refuses to admit that.

I skyped with the guy once and he seems really nice so idk.

Should I be worried?
Thanks

[Bobby]

they could be just friends im getting out of a relationship with a girl the kinda throws the ILY around so I know how you feel. and with the whole cutting past I don't like that stuff ether but yelling at her just makes things worse for you cuz you'll never win cuz people that do the tend to be weak willed no disrespect

[Gammie]

Listen...i know it hurts,even my guy used to do that,he used to talk to girls and flirt with them..and i had all his passwords,i used to feel heartbroken reading those chats..
And in your case i think that guy is taking advantage of your girl's sweetness,your girl can be attracted but she doesnt want you to be worried,but it's natural to be worried but u need to express it in a different way to strike the chord..

Even i did this mistake of yelling at him because of this,he slowly and gradually started hiding things from me..bcoz he was afraid of my emotions,he started lying bcoz he didnt want me to cry over petty things..
Now when i understood it..i figured out a solution which worked really well!i'll tell it to you..
Dont yell at her,be cool (pretend)i know one cannot remain cool while feeling worried n insecure..
Make her too comfortable that she comes to you to tell everything,that she feels guilty of hurting you!
Ofcorse,attraction is building between them,and they have too much in common on the emotional level..that they can strike a good rappo quickly.
Tell her verbally that you dont have any problem with her talking to any guy in the world coz u know at the end she is loyal enough to you..at the end of the day its just you and her..that you trust her and know that she will not do anything to make you feel insecure,that you wont keep a check on her coz you love her coz you know that she loves you a lot in return..tell her all sorts all positive things instead of yelling..ask her how can she love you soo much!

By this you'll compel her emotionally to be even more faithful to you.

Thats is what,when we yell at someone they flinch off,when we make them realise emotionally they come to us hugging when we show them that we understand them,they try to understand our needs!

HOPE YOU FIND IT HELPFUL!!..if u hv any doubt you can ask me,i'll rply.

[Hi123]

talk to the guy and tell him nicely to stop, if he keeps on flirting with her, beat his ass up

[Dessi]

Here is what I have to say. Any girl who uses the "Oh I didn't know it was a problem" excuse is lying through their teeth. A girl, at least one with some sort of brain, who actually cares about you would never call another guy babe, because she knows how much it would hurt her if you did that to another girl. In my opinion, it seems like they are more than just friends, and it is going to end badly.