Having a hard time with my boyfriend being "friends" with his ex?

[Sarah]

My boyfriend and I have known each other for 10 years and have been together since January of this year. We moved in together in June. We get along amazingly for the most part but he is still friends with his ex that he lived with for the past 6 years. I have asked him to please stop talking to her but he is constantly posting things on her facebook page and talking to her on messenger on FB. Last week he posted a .gif from an episode of 30 Rock from an episode entitled "Let's stay together" and it was a clip called "Jenna Maroney, Master of seduction" and has the female wrapping her leg around a guys shoulder. About a month ago when I was at work, my mother went by my house to drop something off and caught the ex g/f in my house with him. When I questioned him about it he said that she came by to see the dog they used to have together (who now lives with us). I'm not buying that. My mom sat outside the house to make sure she left and she called me a few minutes later telling me they left together with the dog. He never would tell me where they went other than "to walk the dog". He says that I am trying to be controlling in telling him who he can and can't be friends with, but I don't think he needs to be talking to his ex. Am I wrong? I don't talk to any of my ex's. Another thing is he is currently unemployed and I work 12 hour night shifts, so I am paying for everything. she also recently changed her facebook profile picture to their dog, who as I said now lives with me. I feel like something is up or either she is trying to piss me off. They don't have children together so have no ties to each other. Am I in the wrong here in this situation? Is he being shady and do I have the right to be suspicious about him talking to her, or am I really controlling? What do you people think about my situation?

[Kyle W]

sometimes ex's do talk to eachother. I do talk to one of mine. even while I was dating this girl. she didnt see anyhitng wrong with it..I think. but if he is doing somehting shady you should talk to him about it. its not worth the pain if something does happen..

[SpookyLee True]

I personally feel that the contact they have is inappropriate considering their past relationship. I would not be happy with that level of contact between my partner and his ex unless they had kids together. I also feel that he is acting very selfishly by not taking your feelings about his relationship with his ex into consideration.

OK, I understand his point when he says that you should not be controlling who he is friends with. However, how many women would put up with their partners ex-girlfriends coming over to their house when they are not at home? Not many! It also makes me wonder if he would have told you she'd been over if your Mom hadn't told you herself?

I'm sorry hon, but to me, there's something a little "off" with his "friendship" with his ex and I would personally need to be talking to him pretty seriously about this.

Good luck xxx