how do i handle my stricked dad???

[Christina]

ok so i am girl and 16 in 2 months i have a really stricked dad. there are lots of things he doesnt let me do like:
im not allowed to sleep over anywhere not even family. im not allowed to go to parties,im not allowed to have my own values/opinions, i have to obey everything he says or im in big shit, im not allowed to have caffeine (wtf), im not allowed any social networking, not even allowed to say at least hello, how are ya to a boy, always have to take his side, and he always does things or tells me to do things for him just to piss me off and he just replies with "im teaching u how to not get angry", im never allowed to have attitude and when he takes my phone away he always give it to my sister to have for the week. im not even allowed to wear a skirt/dress more than 2cm above the knee, im not allowed in my room for too long, im like banned from it sometimes. like im a teenager like f*** off mate. he lets my brother who is a year older go out and do whatever and the worst part is my brother has turned into my dad... what do i do? i dont want to live like this anymore and dont say "oh he only cares about you"

[Wifebeater]

sorry nothing you can do hes the boss until you are 18

[Farukh]

He just cares for you a lot. Just try to have hold on him till you get 18

[MissPiggy]

Strict*

[ChemoAngel]

Sounds like he is a bit too controlling....where is your mother in all of this? Perhaps you can go and live with your grandparents or an Aunt.

[Rosalie]

Talk to your mum, and sit down with your Dad. Try and find some way to get a bit more freedom while still being safe. Unfrotunately, there's not a lotof middle ground when it comes to protecting kids - you're obviously allowed internet access, but he's not wrong about not haviung a FB page. THere is a lot that can go wrong in a heartbeat before you realize it - so yes, it's awful and no fun., but a lot of what he's trying to do IS to protect you.

See if you can arrange to go out to a movie with one or two friends on the weekends. Ask him if he would drive you, and make sure you *Never* get talked into ducking out to do anything anywhere else. He needs to know he can trust you, or you will end up imprisoned in your house for the rest of your teen years- try and work out something he can allow and know you are safe.

Ask to have a pizza party with a couple of your friends over.
If you can do that, you can have fun, an he'll know where you are and what you're doing. Find a movie and make it a regular thing.

Ask your Dad to think about what you can be allowed to do. The minute you show him you can understand how he is trying to protect you, and stop just fighting against him, you will have a better chance of arranging something much more fun that you are having now.

It's very hard to be a teenager, and I have to tell you- it's actually harder to be a parent of a teenager. He doesn't want to be mean to you, he just doesn't know how to meet you halfway, without letting you do things that have gotten other kids in trouble. If you talk it over with him, perhaps you can teach each other a few things about how to go about keeping you safe, and having him not live in constant fear that he isn't protecting you. Trust me, it's just not that simple.

SO - think about ways you could have fun with friends that still allow him to know where you are and what you're doing- and with whom.

Offer to do something in return for having your friends over. That requires extra money and time, and you need to be able to help out in other ways.

Ask him what could happen (not "what he thinks could happen" - that's not going to win you points) if you do XYZ, such as have a page on social media - once you learn what he's afraid of, it should make more sense. It will also allow him to tell you how he is protecting you - and I can tell you from looking on Yahoo!Answers, there are far too many girls your age having sex, making babies they can't take care of, with men they are going to get dumped by...

It sucks to be treated like this- but he IS trying to protect you. Ask him how you can be safe, and be allowed to do a bit more- but do it without being angry or fresh. And start by giving him a hug. He may be a hardazz, but he obviously cares a lot about you or he would not be working so hard to keep you safe.

[sheloves_dablues]

Strict.. not stricked..

[Natasha]

Just wait till you're 18 that's ONLY 2 more years. YOU CAN DO IT! Strict dads are the worst! So glad mine wasn't!

[digimutt]

the word is strict your dad is right you need to devote more time to your .studies