How do i get us back to the way things were?

[bayboy]

I've been dating a girl since September. She became my gf in novemeber. I upset her by liking pictures on social media until mid January. She found out in February, and Now she doesn't trust me. We've been together since, but she says she doesn't feel the same. She's brought it up a few times since, and I understand her being upset. How do I get help her to get passed this, like I said, I don't think she's at fault, but how do I get her to feel the way she felt about me before?

[William B]

You can take two or three steps:
1. Talk to her. Tell her how you feel about her and that you want the two of you to be together. Let her know that you did not mean to hurt her feelings and that you regret hurting her.
2. Here is a hard part: let her know that you meant what you said but that if she keeps acting the way she is now then you will back away from her. That is a difficult thing to say, but it is the way to go.
3. Hardest of all: follow through. If she continues to complain about your putting likes on pictures, then start to pull away. Don't rule out the possibility that she will change her ways when you do that, which is OK.

It is difficult to give up a relationship, but if she will not stop complaining then you must make the decision to either live with it or start pulling back.

[Jill B]

I agree with the points William B made. Trust can be hard to earn in a relationship once it's been broken or tested, but it's very possible, and it makes the process better IF you're BOTH on the same page and can commit to making it work. You do this by being completely open and honest with each other about how you both feel and then reaching a resolution together.

Tell her that you love her and that you are sorry for hurting her feelings. It wasn't your intention, but you acknowledge that she feels threatened, and you're willing to do what it takes to have her trust again. Remind her that it needs to be a team effort, meaning that you're both going to have to come to some sort of compromise and follow through on your word.

If she doesn't want to work on herself and then continues to give you a hard time instead of effort or positive reinforcement, then I agree that it might be time to re-consider your relationship with her. There may be issues that she needs to figure out on her own. All you can do is try Good luck!