My boyfriend just left for basic training?

[Katherine]

My boyfriend just left for basic training and is going to be at basic till march then AIT school right after that till July, can anyone give me advice on how to cope with him not being here.

[David Patterson]

Blow up doll

[Anthony]

Two fingers!

[Chuck]

In two weeks, you won't even remember his name.

[706]

You know, people don't have to be disgusting. As a military girlfriend, obviously new to all of this, she is asking a serious question. It is tough that first time apart if you've never expereinced anything like it. I remember when it was me, many, many years ago. It was difficult to say the least. If you can't offer honest to God supposrtive answers, just be quiet. She doesn't need it made worse but cads with zero class.

Katherine - the best thing to do is find something to occupy your time. He has plenty occupying his right now. Volunteer, check your local library, animal shelter, hospital... wherever and help someone else. That will keep your mind occupied along with your time. Take an additional class in school. Again, keeps your mind busy and off the loneliness. Write letters to him. Don't get all sappy, mushy, miss you type letter... Basic is hard enough without making him feel like he left you behind in misery. But this is what I did today, who I saw today, who won the NASCAR race/baseball game/basketball game (whatever is his favorite thing). Don't make it sound like "I'm having so much fun I went bar hopping and clubbing with the girls, too bad you missed it!" That's just reminding him that people are having fun while he is getting worked over every day in the toughest environment he has known up until this point. Just light hearted, talking to each other through pen & paper.

It isn't easy but before you know it, it will be over. There is a saying... The days will drag by but the weeks will fly. Before you even realize it basic will be over and communication will be a lot easier during AIT. You can also look on Facebook for your bf's company or a group of Army GF's, something like that. You would be amazed the amount of support you will find, even in just typing on Facebook, with someone else that is either going through or has gone through it. Either way, stay tough. Allow yourself to be sad when you miss him, but don't allow yourself to be depressed without him. Keep your spirits up and you'll see, one day you'll look back and think "What was all that worry and anxiety for!" Best of luck to you... and Best of luck to him!!!

[bob p]

Battery operated devices...

[mgan]

You could act like an adult and deal with it!