Why is my husband so immature?

[Silver]

Before I write I know this is my insecurity. I am not big with social media. I don't like people posting photos of me, especially my husband without my permission. I think this is a basic boundary that someone you are married to should respect. At least I know I would.

My husband doesn't get it. I've asked him twice not post photos of me on his Facebook or Instagram without my permission especially photos I don't even know he takes! Photos that I find very unflattering and make me feel bad about myself. I don't care if he thinks I am beautiful, I don't want my photos up without permission. He doesn't seem get that because once again he posted a photo of me that I didn't even know he took! Found out cause my sister showed me.. He claims it's not me even though it is.. It is the back of me, with my head turned so ya, you can see it is me and very unflattering. Instead of being a man, and respectful he argues with me for 30 minutes. Than, deleted EVERY photo of us posted since the beginning of us dating which I found completely unnecessary and disrespectful.


Advice.

[death]

Please don't argue for things like these. This is terrible my parents argued for little stuff like this and now look, they're both separated.
My advice is to calmly introduce the subject say "Hunny, please don't post pictures of me online. I don't feel comfortable having my face on there especially without my acknowledgment." Don't be mad while saying it, if he responds with anger just don't talk back. Let it slide then try again later.

[G]

You can't fly off the handle about pictures then get mad when he removes them - that makes no sense. Do you see where that's sending a mixed message? Have you considered that him posting pictures of his wife is a very clear way of telling everyone he is married and proud of it?

At the same time, look at how you speak of him: "Instead of being a man, and respectful ..." He didn't respond the way you wanted him to so now you question his manhood? Do you know how offensive that would probably be to him?

How is he being immature? How are you doing the same? I think maybe you could look to your own behavior first and try to understand how your approach is not getting the results you want.

[wyomugs]

It's the Y-chromosome, m'dear.

Men carry the X and Y chromosomes while women have both X's. I have had to conclude over the years that there are certain chacterteristics that "reside" on that branch of the "X" chromosome that the men are MISSING because of their "Y" chromosome.

It has helped me understand the poor creatures throughout the years.


BTW... this really is not an ETIQUETTE question... but thanks for asking!


Have a polite day.
Etiquette takes over where laws end.

[Howdoesitwork]

instead of fretting about your photos maybe you should insist on him deleting his facebook and instagramm accounts instead

[Tapestry6]

How can anyone tell what the back of themselves looks like? I wouldn't have a clue!
People from the back look like just about everyone else.
You insulted your husband and he responded in kind by insulting you by deleting all photos
You are the one that told him not to post any pictures of you without permission, you got
what you asked for now your mad about that. You are very controlling.
The guy is your husband have a bit of respect for him he isn't your son, maybe you need a
child in your life or maybe you two need some counseling sessions to break up this obsession
you have over photos.

[KENNETH D]

Whatever your relationship you are a person and have rights to feelings. If you do not like it he should not do it. Applies to everything