My friend saw my messages bitching about her?

[Swifty]

Today my friends, J, Z and I were studying in the library. J asks to borrow my notes for our upcoming term exams because she told me she didn't copy anything during lectures. I am really annoyed by this because she NEVER pays attention in class (either sleeping/using her phone/doodling etc.) and before tests/exams, she will freak out and then ask to borrow notes that other people painstakingly made. I can't tell her no because she'll get mad and I don't want her to feel like her friends refuse to help her when she needs it, but I don't want to just lend her so simply. So I whatsapped Z (who's opposite the table) to complain, and being quite the potty mouth, the content went something like (censored for posting purposes):
"Seriously? Again? I don't f*ing wanna lend her! he's slacks for a whole term and expects people to help? F* her."

Z replied me and I didn't check, then J (who always uses my phone) reads it before me. x_x She never lets anyone use her phone but she always reads my messages and posts things on my Twitter without permission. I see her at it too late and snatches it back, but she has a really pissed look and informed me on the way home that "Sorry I read your messages, but I'm still gonna borrow your notes tomorrow."

Um okay but I don't wanna lend her anymore..? And how do I smooth this over when I don't feel like apologising for something I really feel? Sometimes my other friends and I get the feeling that she thinks she's doing us a favour by bequeathing us with her friendship as she's supposedly more popular, and during lunch she will ask us to carry her food and clear her dishes for her (sometimes).

The thing is I tend to drop cuss words very frequently especially over text, and it sounded extra bad when she reads it. Any idea what I can do now? It'll be so awkward tomorrow LOL
Thanks guys My sister told me I should just go kill myself but I feel a little better now. It somehow doubles the bitch factor since we were all sitting at the same table but gahh it was THAT annoying for me to complain right there. Actually J is okay to be with for most of the day but at times (e.g. when she just stands up after lunch with no intention of removing her plate (so we stack it onto ours)) or when this happens it can be very irritating.

[Ann]

I would let her take her own notes.

[Nayeli]

A girl like that doesn't deserve friends like you. You need to talk to her and tell her that she's being a brat.. And if she doesn't understand then she's not worth having as a friend.

[Chantay]

i say teach her a lesson. Don't be rude verbally at first , just do things amongst yourselves and see where she ends up when she doesn't have you guys anymore. She's treating you guys like her pets and expects you guys to jump when she says so. When she tells you to clear her plate , stand up and walk away leaving her and her plate there. If she asks to copy your work , tell her to google and investigate the work or tell her to check her textbook.

[kate]

Just tell her straight out how you feel. it really is easier than you might think

[Daniel]

Just tell her that while you are sorry she saw those messages, it doesn't change the fact that she doesn't respect your privacy and that you don't want to lend her your notes if she can't be bothered to respect boundaries.

[J]

Ok, I see a pattern here:
Expects you to carry her food and clean dishes? = slave
Posts on your twitter w/o permission? = her domain
Reads your messages? = self entitlement
Demands y.our notes? = her property

OMG, what a self-centered, egotistical, narcissistic B***h. If I were you girls, I would 'forget' to bring my notes. If she gets pissed, so what? You two don't need her, she needs you. Keep your phones in your pockets, and teach her some respect and boundaries. Otherwise she needs to take a flying leap off a bridge somewhere. She's just using you two for her own entertainment, personal note taking secretaries, and bitchslapping you non-stop. Don't you see that? Make her fend for herself. What, are you going to keep giving in because you 'owe' it to her? NO. Put a stop to it. Be mean if you have to. Fk her.

[Miss Epic]

You are at fault for texting someone behind someone's back, but so is she.
If I were you I would say something like:
Look, I'm really sorry about the text, but its true. The only reason I don't say anything is because I fear we will loose of friendship. I'm sorry for texting someone about you but it is really frustrating having o lend notes that I worked hard to make.


Idk though lol