how do you know if a man loves you or is confused?

[Marsha]

Ok so I have been talking to this guy for 3 yrs now at first he had a girlfriend and I was married. So we where just friends we would have lunch and that was it. After the second yr things where going bad with his girlfriend and I was going through my divorce. I'm 25 years old. He is 27. We started by kissing we finally had sex April 30, 2013 A week after that I was snooping on facebook and I found a picture he was tagged on. But he wasn't in the picture it was a group picture. He was tagged on a pregnant girl. I then started to think I went to the girls profile n found out they where expecting! I was so upset and mad I tried to calm down saying he wouldn't do that to me. I didn't talk to him for a week.

[john]

I suggest talking to him about it. Then you can take it from there. By the sounds of it, And I am trying to be nice, He is using you for sex. In a guys mind that is what they call a slam bam thank you Mam. Now I am not saying that is what he is doing but it sounds like it. Are you sure that they aren't related? If you want to talk just message me at john.lara9913@yahoo.com and I can help you through this. so turn your frown upside down...

[Marsha]

John so after the week he noticed I was upset with him but didn't mention his baby. I then kept quiet and didn't say anything until two months later when his baby was born. I text him saying congrats im happy for u. because I was. He took two hours to respond Thanks. His babys mother left back to Brownsville tx with the baby sept 9th 2013. We kept messing around. I then stopped messing with him because I could tell he was confused and I didnt want to be in the middle. Since then we haven't had sex but I have been reserved since October no sex I mean I talk to guys but I rather be pure. Its kind of like im saving myself for him. I asked him two days ago where I stood in his life and to be honest. That I wanted the truth and to be set free to move on. I asked him if he was just trying to use me and that he only comes to me when his hurting or bored with the other girls he talks to. I told him that I love him very much but that I rather give my love to someone that wants it. His response