I am really scared?

[miley]

Okay so there is this bumpy think in my ear. I think it looks like a pimple or something but it is red and whitish and when I touch it , it hurts. I am really scared because when I was in fourth grade, I once got an ear problem and mucus like things came out of my air and I went to Thailand for treatment and cleaning out the ear really hurts so I don't want to get my ear cleaned by doctors again. Please don't tell me to go to doctors cause I am scared. Will it be ok if I just leave it there? Plus, today I fought with my best friend cause she didn't invite me to her house and lies to me that her mom said no and then I got mad and she called me a f***ing bastard and I am getting cyber bullied on Facebook because people are calling me stupid and I am very depressed right now and I don't have anyone to share my story with. When I chat my friends, they take a LOONG time to reply and I get ignored. I am so depressed but the good thing is tomorrow I am going to a Korean restaurant !!! Yummy!!! I sometimes pity myself and when we get assigned to groups, I do all the work and when I ask my team mates what they did, they just get angry at me especially a girl called Nandia. Please don't be mad at me and comment something helpful about my ear , friend fight, and what u think about my life... Hmmmm😒😒😒😊😊😊

[Jasmin]

Hi - sorry to hear you're having a rough time! I think you're ear will be fine; I've had the same thing myself. Ask your parents/guardian to check it out and they'll give you advice. You probably won't need to see a doctor. If you do, tell them you had a bad experience when you were younger and they'll make sure that you feel comfortable.
I don't mean this in an accusative way, but how do you know you best friend was lying? Maybe she was, but perhaps there's a proper reason for it, such as somebody being ill or her not feeling comfortable?
It's difficult to know whether she's lying or not, but you should've asked her calmly. Calling you a ****ing bastard is awful; you didn't deserve that. I think you should call her and talk things out - she's your best friend, right? Then this can be sorted.
If you're getting cyber-bullied the most important thing to do is to talk to an adult you trust as soon as you realize there is a problem.

How to react to cyberbullying:

Ignore— Sometimes bullies are encouraged by seeing a reaction.
Record—Keep a record of bullying messages you receive—in hard copy. If you can show an adult either the messages themselves or a diary of when you received them, it may be easier to verify what went on and who the bully was.
Reach out—Your parents, a favorite teacher, school administrators, counselors, and even police officers can help you deal with cyberbullying. Your state laws or your school’s policies may have rules against cyberbullying that these trusted adults can enlist to help you. It’s also helpful to talk to friends or a counselor so you can get their support when you are feeling upset by hurtful comments. There is no reason to suffer alone when you are the target of bullying.
Cut off the bully—The National Crime Prevention Council advises victims to stop all communication with the bully when possible. You may be able to block their phone number so you no longer receive their calls or texts. If that’s not possible, you might consider changing phone numbers. Facebook and instant messenger providers allow you to block other users so that they can no longer interact with you. If for some reason it’s not possible to block a cyberbully, you can always screen their calls and delete their messages without opening them.
Go high-tech—If you’re being bullied via a website, chances are that the bully is going against the website’s terms of use. Reporting bullies to the website administrator may get them kicked off the site.

Regarding the teamwork problem, I think you should speak to a teacher and ask for their advice. Without mentioning any names, they'll stress that everyone needs to work, not just an individual. Also, you could ask to be with different people instead.
Having some good friends by your side definitely makes things easier, too!
Your life seems like a pretty normal one! Teenagers such as myself often experience lots of drama in the day and feel worried things. The cyberbullying shouldn't be treated as 'normal' though.
You sound really nice and I think you'll be fine!
Be strong! ^v^

[Katrina]

hey, if you're really worried about it, i know you said you didn't want to hear this, but... you need to go to the doctor's. more specifically, a dermatologist. more likely than not, it's just a zit. girls get zits in their ears all the time, it's perfectly normal. it even sounds like a zit. and you don't have to worry about it hurting, and you don't have to go all the way to thailand to get it cleaned out. they have very powerful local anesthetics, which really dull and numb the pain. you can find a local dermatologist's office and make an appointment. it might become severely infected if you leave it alone, and who knows what might happen then. your ear might fall off! trust me, it's better to endure a little pain once than have no ear. and about the friend fight and your life.. that's normal for this part of your life. people start growing up, hormones are raging. they want to be just like the girls on pretty little liars, who are NOT good role models. just be yourself, don't try to be anybody else. and if you want to do less of the work in group projects, assert yourself! tell your partners that there's a time and a place for mucking around, and it's not fair for one person to carry the entire burden. don't be scared, i went through the exact same thing too. (well, not exactly... i was getting bullied in person, and i had this huge weird thing on my nose that wouldn't go away and really hurt, but it turns out it really was just a zit...)

[Oliver P]

About your ear, there is nothing to say other than, "Go to a doctor." I know that's not what you wanted to hear, but if you are worried about your ear, it's the only sensible answer.

You don't say where you live, but if you have previously gone to Thailand for treatment, then I am guessing that you don't live in Thailand. And if someone was prepared to pay for you to travel to another country to get your ear treated, then they must have considered it to be a very serious problem. The fact that the treatment hurt is beside the point. Obviously, if you have something seriously wrong with your ear, it needs to be treated. This new problem might also be something serious. I had to have an operation on my ear when I was 14 or 15, and I am told that if I had not had the operation, it is quite likely that I would have died. I'm not saying this to make you feel bad, but to explain the consequences of ignoring medical problems. You should really get your ear looked at by a doctor.

As for your argument with your friend, it is possible that her mother really did say no. You haven't been privy to all of the conversations between your friend and her mother, so you can't really know exactly what was said. If you accuse someone of lying, then they will very likely be angry and not want to be your friend any more. Don't accuse people of lying unless you have very strong evidence. Perhaps you could apologise to your friend for accusing her, and then you might be able to be on good terms with her again. Maybe invite her to your house, instead of you going to hers.

When you get group work, try organising who is going to do which parts of it before you start working. Write on a piece of paper who is going to do what. Make sure that everyone understands what their task is, and then you won't end up doing it all.

On Yahoo! Answers, it's a good idea to submit a separate question for each problem that you want an answer to, rather than writing an essay about lots of different things under one question. Some parts of what you wrote look like questions, while other parts look like chattnig. It would have been better to submit several different questions, with titles like these:

1. Should I be worried about this pimple in my ear?
2. How should I resolve this argument with my friend?
3. How can I get others to pull their weight when doing group work?

If you ask more specific questions, you might get more helpful answers.

If you just want to talk about your life, Yahoo! Answers probably isn't the best place. You might want to search for discussion forums for talking about what you are interested in, and talking to people there.

Anyway, good luck at the doctor's, I hope you sort things out with your friend, and I wish you well with your life.